I worry I have passed on the trait of perfectionism to both of my daughters. Since I am raising them alone and see they have taken on some of my traits, it bothers me when they take them to the extreme. I know some of it is them and they have to work through it themselves, but in all the years I lived with my exAH we both pushed my now 17 year old to look and behave perfect in our small town that is a tiny fish bowl. She has straight A's, does her homework without ever needing reminded, cleans house when asked the first time, babysits her sister whenever I need and the only time I ever get any sort of slight attitude is in the early morning especially when I used up the creamer before Church last Sunday! haha! But even then she is way too calm and just rolls with it, she made a smart allecky comment that made me laugh about thanks for leaving me creamer and jumped in the shower. I have the perfect kid and although so many think wow I wish! I worry about her pendulum being so stuck and all she has been through, how do I help her unstick, I had her in counseling, but neither of them she saw thought she needed further meetings after the 3. She isn't playing varsity soccer this year to be able to keep her 4.0 in all her AP honor classes, she wants to be valedictorian of her school. She is a junior, an introvert and a great kid. Honestly I am proud of her and shouldn't complain, because she talks to me when she needs to and will zing back and forth with me and has a great sense of humor, but I know life has been hard and not sure how it is not oozing out of her. Any ESH, besides just be happy she isn't acting out like my 7 year old!