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anyone have loved ones that are just too far gone mentally?
my dad is just "not all there", even when he's sober! i have not talked to him for a while now b/c it justs upsets me. but looking back, i feel that its amazing that he was following a conversation. he has the attention span of a 6yr old--that's being generous.
physically he's ok (alcohol is killing him quietly though). but mentally, he's just not there. it is eating his brain!!
that sucks. my only hope for him is that he doesn't know it.
My A husband has drank for many years, he's 48 now. Sometimes, even when he's not drinking, he will tell the same story 4 or 5 times, I want to scream! His mental abilities have definitely deteriorated over the last few years. It is so sad what alcohol can do to a person. I just have to keep giving him over to God and hope his disease stops, and maybe he can regain some of the loss in mental capacity.
anyone have loved ones that are just too far gone mentally?
------rosie____ yep, my 51 yr. old brother.....he is total TOAST....the booze and drugs have fried his brains.....i mean the poor guy, u can't believe anything he says, cuz he is in fantasy/ denial/ unreal mode......and he is a mess!!! teeth rotted out....bad hygiene.....has the mentality of a kid....he cannot live w/out someone taking care of him, i mean i truly believe that he could never make it on his own .....that stuff does eat ur brains and they just keep doing it....i am amazed that he is alive still, with all the substance abuse he has done....he can quote u the big book , but he does NOT work the program......i dont' let him "go there" with me on the b/book becuz it is an insult to the ones who are REALLY working the 12steps and serious about their recovery.....i love the little guy, but i am so detached from his bs and his sickness......if i had half the people help me that has helped him , i would be president by now......i used to be resentful of that, until i realized, "hey i must be helpable/curable for me to not get the kind of help he has had--- like he is a waste and i am gonna be ok----so hp sends him folks to take care of him, to help him get to the end" whereas i can take responsibility for me and be ok........he is one of those relatives i just have to love at a distance.................i know how u feel, but there is ZERO we can do about it, but give it up to the universe and LET GO!!!!! peace/ rosie
This is something my husband has had to face. He is sober now, but finds that there are a lot of mental things that he just cannot do anymore. It was going downhill for the last ten years or so, but he could always blame it on being wasted. Now he has to face the fact that he has destroyed part of his brain - not an easy or pleasant thing to face. Just another part of what IS, nothing to be done about it.
