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FEELINGS


2nd trip to rehab didnt help ah. or should i say, he didnt follow through on it at all. I am going through the same sad,angry,empty feeling while he repeats the same ah behavior he

always does. I must get off this treadmill or i will completely lose myself. Yes, I have been applying alanon tools but they arent enough here....

So, im desperately trying to find out more info,so i can leave in the smartest way i can. searching for info about my 4o1 k and housing etc

it is like a death and im living in the mourning room of a cemetary



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ALYCE R KINIKIN


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I know the feeling alyce except mine is dry but acts
Like a real jerk.God did for me what i couldnt do for
Myself. My ah wanted a divorce and he left because
I stood my ground against the bully in him.

I am still Standing my ground, He does not like to see a
healthy Healing wife. He wants me giving into his mighty will
And moving on down the road of life with a flea in my ear.
Too bad buddy boy you have a fight on your hands.
Its been an intense battle for nine months now.

I have put up with his really unacceptable behaviors
For 3+ years. No more mrs doormat for me. Alanon
And God have given me the inner strength i needed.
i get stronger every day of my recovery journey.

I have two jobs so that helps alot working outside
The home and having an income.

Sorry to blow it out probably not very helpful to you.



-- Edited by Mirandac on Tuesday 7th of April 2015 02:53:49 PM

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If you want advice concerning leaving legally contact an attorney many will do a consult for free.


mourning your loss is a very acceptable thing.

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-- ladybug

We come to love not by finding a perfect person,
but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly.



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Most state courts have an "attorney of the day" who will help anyone under a certain income. It's worth looking into to get an idea of what might be considered a fair division of the marital assets. I know how hard this is; I stayed with my crazy exAH for 3 years after the poop hit the fan. I was terrified to leave because of finances and threats he made around custody and just his general bullying. It took a lot of bravery to finally leave, and 3 years to amass that much guts. Best decision I ever made. It's been 8 years now, and I'm so grateful I was able to get out of that hellish marriage. Sending you hugs. Take us with you every day as you make one little brave move at a time!

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