The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
I came to AlAnon confused about what was and was not my responsibility. Today after lots of Step work, I believe I am responsible for the following: to be loyal to my values, to please myself first, to keep an open mind, to detach with love, to rid myself of anger and resentment, to express my ideas and feelings instead of stuffing them, to attend AlAnon meetings and keep in touch with friends in the fellowship, to be realistic in my expectations, to make healthy choices, and to be grateful for my blessings.
I also have certain responsibilities to others: to extend a welcome to newcombers, to be of service, to recognize that others have a right to live their own lives, to listen, not just with my ears, but also with my heart, and to share my joy as well as my sorrow.
I am not responsible for my alcoholic loved ones drinking, sobriety, job, cleanliness, diet, dental hygiene, or other choices. It is my responsibility to treat this person with courtesy, gentleness, and love. In this way we both can grow.
Today if I am tempted to interfere with something that is none of my business, I can turn my attention instead to some way in which I can take care of myself.
I have a primary responsibility to myself to make myself into the best person I can possibly be. Then and only then will I have something worthwhile to share.
Being a part to the very special kind of support from Alanon makes all the difference in the way I SEE my life. The way I see each day. There is a reassuring kindness that just flows from the group, from my sponsor and from all the wonderful friends, like you, here. T h a t keeps me grounded. I know that I am special. A Special Person. I am after all .. "Me." BUT~ I need to hear it too! And through the existence of the Alanon Support Groups... I do. What a blessing. It's given me Courage. The Courage to Change. Change my train of thought, courage to let go of those things I can not control. Courage to accept those things I can not change.
I'm continiously reminded of the importance of living for now. I feel so thankful for each day. I know my life is important. My peace of mind is .. my own right. I am a life that is precious and deserves love and friendship. I understand very clearly. I will never let another keep me from feeling good about myself nor let another keep me from being around those that build me up and help me keep me feeling "Alive." feeling at peace with myself., with my decisions.
I feel so much better. I have begun to understand how it may be leading to helping others. And.... in doing that ... I have also found a peace that can not be explained in words. I am so very thankful.
Thanks for the share. Thank You, also, for your kind words. ((Big Hug to You))
BUT~ I need to hear it too! And through the existence of the Alanon Support Groups... I do. What a blessing. It's given me Courage. The Courage to Change. Change my train of thought, courage to let go of those things I can not control. Courage to accept those things I can not change. 
feeling at peace with myself., with my decisions.