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Well, after a 6 month separation, and a lot of soul searching and taking care of me I decided to take the risk and see how it goes, and told hubby on Friday that he could come home.
As soon as I said it I thought oh god what have I set myself up for - I can see changes in him and as far as I am aware he has only had 1 slip in 6 months but then I cant be sure cos I've not been with him - what if hes pulling the wool over my eyes again......what am I doing to myself lol.
Anyway, I thought long and hard about the different person he is now - hes more confident, and much more assertive - doesnt people please anymore - stands up for what he wants - all positive signs of a change.
So just as I was thinking oh god have I just set myself up for another fall, he surprised me all over again by saying he would phase his move back home over a month, to allow us both time to adjust to sharing our space again and not get on each others nerves too much - WOW the old him would have been at the door the next morning with all his stuff!
So, am trying hard to just concentrate on enjoying our time together, looking forward to the future but some days having to fight back those 'what if hes not home what if hes drinkin' thoughts, but so far its looking positive.
I just want to thank all you guys who have supported me through the tough time I've had over the past 6 months - letting me rant, listening to me, sharing your experience, and sometimes giving me some insight to the other side of the coin - I couldn't have gotten here without all you guys.
Good for you Pico! I hear in your post that you have high hopes for your reunion.
Remember to keep your strength up and keep up with your program, no matter how good it is we all still have tough times and they will be easier if you keep your support in place!
Sounds like you have both made really good progress and I really hope things work out for you both.
Know that we are always here for you. It's a tough road and there are always bumps on the way. Stick hard with your programme and keep the focus on you.Will be praying for you both ((pico))
I so hope this all works out for you. Success stories seem pretty scarce around here sometimes. When we do have them it gives everyone hope and sometimes that's all we are allowed to have when it comes to our A's.
Love you Christy (Cjo)
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If we think that miracles are normal, we will expect them. And expecting a miracle is the surest way to get one.
Sounds like you had a while to think it over Pico, and I wish you both all the best. It's great that you each know you have to take care of yourselves before you can take care of your relationship. I pray someday my husband and I can get to that point. I tried to force sobriety on him, and it only caused a huge rift in our relationship. We were separated almost 4 months due to a restraining order, and when he did come home, it was from me begging and pleading. He still has so much anger. He has left again, this time saying he wants a divorce.
Anyway, my prayers for you and your husband. Hope to see you in chat.
