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They called me today and asked me if I wanted to attend my husband's bail bond arraignment and I said yes. They told me that if I wanted to talk to the judge to get there early. I got there about an hour early, which I did. The magistrate said he could not order drug treatment when I asked. He said that the circuit court judge could order it when my husband went to court. I asked him how I could get my husband treatment if he is unwilling. The judge said that unless my husband was arrested for drug charges, they wouldn't court order him into treatment. I told him about the time the police were called to the home and they found meth in his car, but they did nothing because it wasn't enough to charge him with. If course not, he had smoked the rest. The judge actually ordered my husband to take me to dinner upon his release and let him come home. He did not believe my husband to be a threat to me. I agree that normally he isn't, but when he's coming off drugs, he is not himself. He came home very grumpy and blaming everyone else. When he saw that I wasn't buying into it, he became very contrite. That won't last either. I just want peace, but know it will come in His time.
I totally understand about wanting peace, I have said that so many times. The thing is though thru my experience only I could give myself peace. Some how some way u must find a way to let go and find the peace u need inside yourself.
As for your hub, he will only get help when he decides he has had enough. We can't force them into anything they don't want. Even if we do it wolnt' work, they have to be the one's to say I need help and I want to be clean. Beleive me I have learned this the hard way.
I hope for your to find peace within yourself for you and your children.
the courts don't get it, all they know are the jails are full. Unless they have lived with addiction you will get no sympathy because they hear it everyday and are ammune to it.
So sorry sweetie
Josey
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Julianne - It's best to move on. You cannot look back in anger in life. It's too short
Well he has had some repercussions for his actions. Acting like he did in public is not a good thing. I hope you will put the focus back on you now and start to look at your program. I know that is very very hard to hear when everything in you wants to scream he is the one who needs to do the work. At the same time only when the focus is on you can your life change. Maresie.
Is it an option for you to kick him out? From my experience here where I work, meth addicts don't get better without some kind of in-patient help. I've seen meth addicts here and it's scary. I've seen what happens to those around them. Please be careful before he really hurts you or your children. This is the most digusting drug there is.
