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Took A to his doc. app. for SS. His "friend" was home. I don't know why he did not ask him to take him. I have to drive from another town to take him.
He is dead walking. NO life, no spark, no word. no how are you's hows gma nothing.
I don't care. my guts are a mess. him, gma, squatters..ick
it is so awful to see someone so void of life. I said it wouldhelp if you did not smell of alcohol. He says," I am not doing this for him." I said,"no you are doing this for you!" gads. He is minus 599 clues.
what ever, he will be denied the first time then i give it to my attorney and that is taht6.
He deserves ss has paid into it, served his country for four years,Has worked all his life.
He has so many medical problems I think i would drink too. well not really and he drinks cus he is a.
forgive me. just letting out bs. this bone disease and bowel disease are a drag. not a good combo when ya need to move quick to the br....sigh
it is super cold here. I had to put better flaps on all the animals condo's. Fill everyones jpidr smf
barn with hay and straw. gots to get out and do water.
Lost one cat rowdy to the cold. she got her claws stuck in my glider. broke my heart.
I gotta go to bed or shoot myself...bed is better. love,debilyn
(((((((Debilyn))))))))) - thinking of you, wishing you better health.
Tomorrow is another day - As can be so hurtful, so uncaring, it is the disease, I know, but it still hurts - we care about you, on this site - dont ever feel unloved.
Debilyn: I think it depends on the doctor's report whether it is denied or not. I have known people who got it the first time. Maybe his depression will be a factor in the diagnosis.
I often think of you taking care of all those animals alone. That must be incredible physical labor.
I know I resent deeply when I care for the A and his friends don't do much. I deeply resent those relationships. When my A was sick last year his mother did zero. She gave him one bag of groceries. He could not move she offered nothing nada, not one bag of cat food, dog food nothing. Yet she makes a huge fuss over the dogs if she sees them. Obviously they have many excuses. I do observe the A's having great superficial relationships with other who they idolize and deeply dependent relationships with their spouse who they diminish.
I am certainly tired of it. It seems like all boundaries with an A are muddied and up there. I have now given up remonstrating with the A about his friendships where he seems to give everything. I just mind my own business. I keep working on myself and my issues and my needs which is something I never did.
I do think it is incredibly sad that A's are so self destructive have not very meaningful relationships and more. At the same time it is even sadder if I let my entire life go because of it. I have my own problems and issues which I need to attend to. My A minimizes my problems all the time that is a repeat of my childhood where if I did have something wrong with me it was deeply resented by my sisters. Yeah I asked to be physically ill to annoy them?
I am sorry you are not well and I think you need help and concern and support too.
((((((((((Rowdy))))))))) God Bless HIM! How very sad. (((((((debilyn)))))) It sounds like you are doing the detatching with love. He cannot do this for himself so you are helping a sick person help himself. I do admire that so much in you! What a huge gigantic heart you have! Not only for your pets but for the A in your life who has such an awful horrible disease! May God bless you for your loving heart and loving actions. You have also been such a good friend to me. xoxoxoxo your friend in recovery, cdb xoxoxoxoxoxo
