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I have a friend of mine that found out that her boyfriend is going on to web sites for porn. Does anyone know of a message board similar to this one that she can access?
I don't right off hand, but I am sure there is one.
Have you tried putting pornography addiction message board, or support message board into a search engine? Not quite sure how to word it, but that is how I found this one.
Is she sure that he is "addicted" to porn? Many men go to websites and look at porn, but so long as it is not affecting their sex life with their partner, or they are not having cybersex, it can be a perfectly healthy thing to do. I am not saying that there are not people who are addicted, but many women tend to get very upset about this, when it doesn't necessarily have to be an issue unless it affects one's relationship.
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Do we know the boyfriend is "addicted?" It is often harmless entertainment if it does not interfere with life and work. Looking at porn images does not necessarily mean one is an addict. Often a look can spice up one's sex life. I think I would let my friend handle this one herself.
Best wishes, Diva
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I appreciate your responses. It is affecting their sex life, that is her concern. We did find a message board that she' looking at now. Unfortunatley, alot of what is being said pertains to what's going on in their home. Thank you for your help.
Agreed - establishing that there is an addiction to porn not so easy, as soem guys use it for a sexual outlet that is not necessarily threatening to anyone. Controversial for women, I understand, but guys do have a diff perspective on it. Also, looking at porn sites is much better than going out and looking for the real thing.
My addict is also a recovering sex addict, so this is a subject of interest to me. The Internet while being a great tool to some of us, is just another sex addiction outlet for those who indulge to the point of obsession WHERE it can get to the point of causing problems in the addicts work life, relationship with family and most unfortunately, relationship with a significant other. There is a line where men (and yes, women too) can go from just a harmless source of enjoyment to a destructive addictive habit. If the person is especially indulging in the behavior during the day at work, that is really crossing the line, in my opinion. If your friend has found a good support group online, that is great. So far I have not. So I come here since my addict is also sober in AA for nearly 20 years.
There is a group called (I think ) Sanon, for the family members of those with a sex addiction. Very very similar to alanon - I had smoe literature around the house someplace, but I think it got thrown out in the last big cleaning! If your friend googles Sanon, S-anon, and other spellings, she should probably be able to find them. They had f2f meetings in the citynear here, which is not a huge place, so she may be able to even find a meeting.
I have been to S-Anon. They are difficult to find but there is a website. They run the meetings similar to Alanon. If meetings are available, try a few and see if they fit.
there HAS to be a "porno anonymous" i would try 12 steps programs- pornography addicts---
poor gal-- i hate to say this, but these guys, usually act on their "looking" eventually---my father was into "porn" first, than he graduated to being a serial child molester!! -i hope she RUNS!!! rosie
