The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
I just want to post an update on my situation. This is how the power of the program works...
I posted yesterday about asking my husband not to come home (on Valentine's day)
I received so much support on my feelings, that I actually started to think clearly again.
He came home anyways. (Funny how they always do the opposite of what you want!!)
Through a lengthy discussion, we determined the following.
1. I am covering for my boss for three weeks. therefore doing two peoples job for 9 hours. 2. When he doesn't come home, I am doing two people's jobs at home too. 3. I do not have a healthy balance between work and play. I haven't "played" in months.
In Alberta, this weekend is a long one, so I am leaving town. Through all your help, I discovered the root of the feelings. I truly did want him to stay away yesterday. I think, i n hind sight, that i really wanted some space. I didn't want a divorce, but by the end of my working day, I had blown it up so huge, that I did. I was sure that our marraige was over because I asked him not to come home... sheesh!
Anyhow, thank you all! You saved me from a huge mental breakdown! Gonna enjoy my weekend in the mountains (home) with my family (mom dad etc), but without my family (hubby and kids). I am SO EXCITED!!!
Aron