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i have not thought about my dad in a few days. i have just been doing "my thing" for the past couple of days. it kind of feels good, not to be wondering and worrying about him. but in the same breathe, i wonder if it is ok. what am i doing? why break the chain today? is this normal?
If you are feeling good today, I say go with that!! Don't feel guilty for not feeling bad. Sometimes when we think out loud things start to make more sense, you know what I mean? Have a GREAT day!!
Sounds to me like you are working on your detachment with your father.
For me when I started working my program and took the focus off my "A", and put it back on me, wow that felt strange. I felt good about the not obsessing, and I felt better about me.
You are doing great!
Keep working your program.
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"Today's problems can not be solved if we still think the way we did when we created them" -Albert Einstein
It sounds like you are doing awesome. I remember when I first decided to quit worrying about my A/son I felt guilty, cause isn't that a Mom's job to worry? I even thought to myself.....what will everyone think if I walk away (with love) from some of this addictive behavior. How sick huh! It did feel weird and wrong at first, but only because it was not the normal for me. But the less I obsessed over him the better it made it for everyone around here.
When I started to be able to turn my son over to my HP, I was able to stop worrying obsessively. It was wonderful to not worry about him. I was really starting to have a life of my own. One of the biggest things that I noticed was that I was not isolating as much. I was doing things with my family and friends and starting to enjoy it more. I was getting the "whatever happens is gonna happen" attitued. I realized that my worrying was not going to change anything except the torment to myself. I have to constantly turn my worries over to God. Sometimes I do this by just reading posts on here or read some of the bible pertaining to fear. Detachment, with love, makes a gigantic difference in your life. That is probably what is happening to you. By reading these posts, you are learning how to let go some.
I'm happy that your are starting to have some of those feelings.
