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The saying when it rains it's pours seems so fitting for this Washingtonian. This has not been the best week of my life. My plate is so full that it feels it will crack and crumble at any moment. First the A with the relapse, his attitude of knowing he can control it now. I was in bed sick Monday and Tuesday, made it to work Wednesday, only to sit at my desk and look the part, got nothing done. My mom, who is 82 and a breast cancer survivor of ten years, had a benign cyst removed two weeks ago, went back to her doctor because the spot was not healing. They sent her to a surgeon, because they discovered a mass underneath where the cyst was......the surgeon did a needle biopsy we will know the results hopefully today. The surgeon indicated that it looks like cancer. My son in the Air Force, who is training to go to Iraq was pulled in to the sergeant’s office yesterday. I guess when he moved into base housing last year they never stopped giving him housing allowance...well now threats of dishonorable discharge in the air for fraud against the government. I doubt they will follow through because I was a dependent wife for 10 years, they will garnish his check because it is the only way to get their money back. I am trying to accept all of this and know that there is good somewhere in all this. My mother is my biggest concern right now, she is my best friend.
my prayers are with you and your family. i understand how you feel with your mother. my sister is my best friend, and if something bad/scarey were to happen to her--i would just die (not literally). so keep your spirits up and be strong for her.
and for your son...i'm sure it will get straightened out. he holds a special place in my heart. my little brother just returned from 1 yr in iraq. i think it was harder on us than it was for him. my suggestion for you when he leaves-keep being positive. we would write my brother, send him pictures, & "care packages"(favorite items/food/deodorant/smokes/pictures/socks). he said those pushed him through the hard times. other guys were getting "dear john" letters, and problems with their families. the guys have enough to worry about-tell him you love him, miss him, and update him on the family, so he feels like he's still home. SORRY-i got carried away with this, but it is something very special that god brought my brother back safe, and i hope your son is well.
sometimes it hurts to put a smile on your face when things aren't going great. it is hard for those around you and sometimes they just need to seea little smile
I hear you sister. That is exactly how I felt last week. As for your A, I am sure his HP can take care of him. The A's always seem oblivious of other people's crisises. As for your mother, bless her for surviving and I hope she will find guidance and comfort from her HP. As for work, I don't think we have to be 100% there all the time. Sometimes we just need to go in, do the minimum and go home. And for your dear son in the military, he doesn't need any more stress then he already feels knowing he is going overseas. My son was disciplined before he went to Iraq in November. They basically thru the book at him (garnished his pay, 45 days straight duty, and took his rank away). This meant he couldn't come home on leave before he went over (third time in combat). That is the military but hopefully our sons know that we love them and support them. As for Mary, take care of yourself so you can be there for the ones you love and keep coming back to the board.
As for the rain, send lots of it to Arizona because we really need it!
