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just spoke with my mother who isnt making sense to me right now either. She said there may be another trial when brother gets finished with Bridgewater Feb 28th. Guess he's up on 2 charges. If guilty there may be more jailtime. He's talking about a 1/2way house. They want to send him for Anger Management but not till after his Bridgewater sentence. Bridgewater is for his addiction, may need to be jailed for the Assault & Battery. I thought thats what Bridgewater is!
Sounds like the legal system in MA is working as efficiently as ever. What I know is that some judges will order A's or addicts to Bridgewater for detox purposes before they sentence them on the actual crimes committed. Jails are not equipped to handle detoxing inmates. Also Bridgewater is better able to evaluate his mental state as a whole. The recommendation of anger management sounds about right. As for the additional charges - it is possible.
I know you have been struggling to find the answers to the questions you have. Might I suggest you contact a criminal lawyer to explain the process to you. They would be better able to explain the differences between A&B and domestic abuse. They might also be able to explain the stay at Bridgewater and whether there will be further incarceration.
Karen
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I am so sorry you are going through this. I think, too, maybe you could consult your own personal lawyer to explain the process the legal system is putting your brother through and what it means for you. Please take care of yourself. Remember that you are special.
It is hard when a loved one's future is in question. My A/son is in jail now also, we don't know what is going on.
Something you said in an earlier post really struck and scared me. It is scary when the system moves them and we don't know where to or how long. No information is a tough thing. But we can be sure that they aren't out wandering around doing drugs or whatever. That is what I keep in mind. At least I know appr where he is at. Not much comfort I know, but it is sometimes all I have to hang on to.
Also, my A caused himself to be where he is and God knows where he is. He will take care of him. God loves him dearly and He won't just abandon him. I know this with my whole heart.
Thanks for keeping us updated. Agree with previous posts - you need to have someone give you information about the system.
I feel sure, if your brother does his best at Bridgewater, it will stand him in good stead for later court appearances. If he can see this, break down his problems into the here and now, and make them more manageable, will be better for all of you.
What is missing from your posts - is, (here I go again!) - what are you doing for you? How are you keeping going? I think the previous posters right, also, it would be good for your peace of mind to know the process - even if it not perfect, knowledge is power as someone (Karl Marx) used to say!!!!
Hi Barbara , don't worry about what is going to happen to brother all of this is his own doing. Perhaps a stint in jail will be an eye opener for him. What he has done to your mom is totally unexceptable and he is now taking responsibility for what he has done in the past wether it was his idea or not. support mom and brother but don't try and stop the process as it is in the natural course of events . Lousie
