The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
i can see a little bit how me and my a's separation is a good thing. before i asked him to leave, he was slacking on going to meetings. because i atended alanon meetings at the same time and place as his meetings, i too was slacking on my meetings. if he wasn't going i didnt go. the past week i can truely see how much i need this program for myself. regardless of what he is doing. so i'm getting back on it and attending a meeting tomorrow night. i need the focus back on me. i want to fix me and be happy. i want serenity. i am sure not gonna find it here by myself, missing my a. if i would have been going to the meetings regularily our separation may not have happened. as i fell back into bad thinking of what if this happens? and always seeing just what he was up to. when i was attending the f2f group i was able to control myself better. so no matter what happens, i need my f2f meetings.
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stay in the now...dont look forward, dont look back....your life is what you make of it
So glad to hear that you are getting the focus back on you. It is amazing how we used to survive without this program but the little time we have spent here has already shown us just how much we need it.
Have a great meeting, I too am going to a new f2f tonite, a step meeting. Have been trying to get to it for a few weeks so I am looking forward to it.