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I am fairly new to the Alanon program I need some ESH since my A husband is coming home in the next few days he is been in a Rehab since Jan.4 I am happy for him and yet i am nervous can someone give me some pointers on what to do or not to do on my part? thanks
good for you! and good for your hubbie! this is a good step in the right direction. try to be supportive, understanding, and stand your ground (don't be a doormat). he'll have to go to aa meetings(from his rehab). that should be helpful. it probably wouldn't hurt if you went to some al-anon meetings.
This can be a scairy time. The best suggestion I can give you is to get busy working on your recovery and your program by attending face to face meetings, getting a sponsor and working the 12 steps. That will help you not to focus on him and his recovery (which we have no control over anymore than we had control over their using), and will help you learn the tools you need to stop allowing his actions to affect you the way they do.
Welcome to this site. It's a great place for you to be.
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Kathy S --
~*I trust my Higher Power that I am exactly where I am supposed to be in my life today.*~
I heard from a few A's who love their spouses, that it was very important for them to know their spouse was supportive about their recovery, and they enjoyed their spouse getting involved with their recovery like going to their AA meetings with them, and showing them much love and support.
I know some might disagree with that, but this came directly from an alcoholic/addicts mouth, and they said it helped them alot.
Congrats to your hubby for completeing his rehab! It's natural to feel excitied and maybe even a scared knowing they will return home. Many of us have been through so much that we yearn for that "fresh start" when the alcoholic returns.
Rehab is only a "kick start" for the alcoholic. They'll get clean, they'll hear lots of recovery stuff.....but the real deal is what they do after they get out. Remember.....no one becomes addicted over night or in 28-30 days.......and no one will change those addictive behaviors over night or in 28-30 days either. Recovery is a process.
This is a good time to be supportive of him as he works his program......while you're in the process of working a program of your own. AA and Al-Anon are terrific support groups.
