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Barbara


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Spoke w/my mother today. Told her after she cancelled court Fri morn I called the lady at the courthouse. She got mad! Told me I went behind her back (which I did). Does not see that Ive been hearing soooo much about the abuse for over a year now that its time I finally do something! Told her I can file the report but she needs to speak up in court.


I also spoke w/Elder Services yesterday who set up someone to stop by her house to speak w/her Tues night. ES told me they have tried contacting her but she told them not to call her house. Now she wont be home Tues night.


She started screaming at me so I hung up. Was gonna be late for Mass anyways. Havent called her back.


Is this where I Let Go/Let God? or do I need to put aside her bitching at me and push forward?



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Hello Barbara,


All that comes to me now is the 3 Cs. Some things we cannot control, cannot cure or did not cause. Only you can answer what more you are willing to do. Maybe take a break from thinking about it for a day or two and get a fresh perspective. This situation has been so hard on you and my heart still goes out to you! Your mom must have been or still is in denial. Connect up with your HP, stop, relax and listen for answers too. Keep us posted! cdb xoxoxoxoxoxo



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Barbara,

This SO much reminds me of my sisters and Mom... Mom had an in home nurse, she had terminal cancer, the nurse was abusing everyone and no one would do anything. Mom didn't want to let her go, she was almost brainwashed at that point. but it got very very bad,so I had to be the "bad guy' and step in and get her fired. Mom was MAD, really MAD. But she got over it once a better nurse came in...!

I think your Mom will likely get over it too once she is safe...for whatever reason abused peoploe seem to protect their abusers...strange.


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irish54


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Barbara,


I've been following your story, and my heart goes out to you!


I agree that you probably need a break from this ... if only for a few days.  Try to take some time just for YOU.  Try to free your mind from these thoughts and just give it to God and try to just give yourself some free time.


If nothing else, right now you have given your mother something to think about and she realizes she does have options.  Maybe she will be thinking of these and God will help her come to a decision she can handle .... when she can handle it.


God knows what the situation is and He is all powerful. 


I know you can't totally stop being concerned about the situation but maybe if you can allow yourself some break time, God will surprise you!


(((((((((HUGS))))))))


Irish



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