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kitty · ~*Service Worker*~

choice/destiny

Christy · ~*Service Worker*~

Thanks kitty..
great quote..

Here's another...Hey! maybe this could be the one liner quote thread :)

When you control the decisions, you control the actions.

bobump · ~*Service Worker*~

Succinct yet to the point.

Reaffirms my belief and I hope it helps those that struggle w/ the concept of fate vs. free choice. Personally the coexist.

I may drift instead of letting todays wind take me to a destination, but I always have a chance to pick up another one and get there later.

Bob

Stormstayed · Member

I always liked this quote

"If I always do what I always did, I will always get what I always got"

Lori

franB · Newbie

no matter where you go, there you are

maresie · ~*Service Worker*~

I was reading today in a cognitive therapy text about the concept of boundaries. They referred to stuff like the economy as a boundary. There are things I have no control over like the economy but my attitude towards it and my ability to overcome obstacles is one of the things I can do. I feel the same way about the A I certainly have no control over his using and his acting out. I can however control how I let it affect me. He can choose to kill himself I have no control over that. At the same time I can honor that I have my own life and my own choices. I can choose not to self destruct with him.

I can choose to take actions every day to improve my lot rather than be paralyzed with resentment at him for destroying his life slowly but surely.

maresie.

mebjk · Senior Member

Thanks for the great quote, kitty.
mebjk

kitty · ~*Service Worker*~

Life is a process just like our healing... not a destination, the final destination is death.

I guess the real trick to life is our growth & learning to be present in the moment. Understanding who we are & what it means to love. I am grateful that I no longer suffer from guilt when I think about me, that was so hard to overcome... I felt utterly worthless, not worth my own consideration or love, well at least that is how I was raised, to tend to the family. That I was part of a unit.

Well I am an indivudal!!!! A human being NOT a human doing. I am trying to let myself be free, be the person HP wanted me to become ~ not who my mother or society told me I'm "supposed" to be.

Thanks for all of your support this year, if it weren't for venting in chat for 4 months up to 8 hours a day, I'd probably be sitting in a prison cell right now.

love, -Kitty

-- Edited by kitty at 23:22, 2006-01-29

Amanda · Member

The journey, *is* the destination

DeAnna · Veteran Member

I like this quote. Thanks.

I also think that when you can't go any further, b/c the winds are soo strong against your face......turn around, find a new direction, and let the wind work for you at your back.

Have a great day.

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