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One of the greatest gifts we can give is an open, loving heart. And holding on to negative feelings from past relationships is our greatest barrier to that gift.
Most of us have had relationships that have ended. When we examine these relationships, we need to clear the emotional slate. Are we holding on to anger or resentments? Are we still feeling victimized? Are we living with the self-defeating beliefs that may be attached to these relationships - Women can't be trusted.... Bosses use people.... There is no such thing as a good relationship....
ROSIE______U know i think "reen" is still teaching me something......my shitty attitude about "cyber" relationships was caused by her.......the failed relationship with her and her lies/ broken promises, etc, caused me to look "down" on or "dismiss" cyber relationships.....i have a "cyber" friend, "robin" , who has been loyal to me---honest to me-----there for me when i need support and i have not really been that good to her...like i don't keep contact...i haven't written her much.....and i see it is the old "reen" residue.....instead of "reen sucks" i am saying WRONGLY that "cyber relationships cannot work".....i am judging all of them based on what reen did to me.....i need to make amends....i will forward this "take" to my friend robin and tell her, that i am aware of this "mistake" in thinking.......cyber relationships are like any other.....some suck...some are good......
Let go of all that may be blocking your relationships today. With great certainty, we can know that old feelings and self-defeating beliefs will block us today from giving and getting the love we desire. We can clear the slate of the past. It begins with awareness, honesty, and openness. The process is complete when we reach a state of acceptance and peace toward all from our past.
Today, I will begin the process of letting go of all self-defeating feelings and beliefs connected to past relationships. I will clear my slate so I am free to love and be loved.
ROSIE_______yep, i needed to see this....i was classifying ALL cyber relationships as "a waste" instead of saying...."lets see this on a CASE to CASE basis-----make judgement on a case to case basis".........yep , that relationship with reen was a joke...however it was ONLY that relationship......not the others.......i am letting what she did to me poison my perspective on ALL email friendships.....AND i have robin's cell #.....so i CAN call her, she HAS been a decent friend.....TODAY i make amends to my lil "email buddy" and i have learned something from this share....and am forwarding it to her..........i accept that i made a mistake....i let reen affect my perspective on "email friendships" oh i still prefer fac2fac....but some folks just live far away...so what do ya do???? i was wrong to act the way i have......it was "old fear" of getting screwed again....thats what it was.......i am clearing up the slate of the past.....i am AWARE of what i did.....i am being HONEST about it with me/ hp and folks involved......i am OPEN to changing my attitude........i am ok with me...it was a mistake out of being human, not of being mean spirited..........i am sorry, all U "cyber buddies"...i apologize and i make amends by doing this--------- starting TODAY, i will make assessments based on what U all do, not on a bad previous experience............
I just wanted you to know I have had a cyber friend since I got my very first computer in 1997! He and I have talked a lot at time, when we were both going to divorces. His son is very close in age to my youngest son, so we have watched eachother's boys grow and change. I lost my father in 1994 but didn't start dealing with that loss until 1997, he lost his father last year. We have never met face to face, we don't chat on the messengers, we just email. I consider him one of my best friends. I have been there with a sympathic ear when his relationships have ended, encouraged him when he has met someone new, reasured him when the airlines layed him off. He has done the same for me. Cyberfriends can be good, to know somewhere out there is a cyber hug coming just when we need it most. I'm glad you have found a cyber friend.
Your posts have helped me greatly, I know this Board has not been all that it could have been. I notice more & more the issues others have, guess cuz I have them too.
After all of these years of abuse & neglect, I am trying to behave differently in my friendships & relationships, cyber or otherwise.
I can turn the other cheek but now I step back & detach, instead of waiting & expecting to be hit again.
love, -K
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Light, Love, Peace, Blessings & Healing to Us All. God's Will Be Done. Amen.
..when i first joined this "on-line family" i wa totally lost..and firmly believed that no one on here would "really understand" me.
they will try...i said to myself.... but they really dont know what im going throu.
i truely believe my HP led me to this site..otherwise id prob be in a straight jacket rocking back and forth on a mattress in some mental hospital by now if ye hadnt saved me.... i owe my sanity to all of you.
...i have never come across a group of people sooo loving, understanding and totally self-less in all their acts... you are my 2nd family.... you really do know what im going throu...we are all united in grief, fear, anxiety and a sense of loss.... a hopelessness and sadness that fills our hearts some or all of the time.... but thats what i love about this website..... "EVERYONE IS ALWAYS THERE FOR ONE ANOTHER....ALWAYS...NO MATTER WHAT.
I WANT TO THANK MY ONLINE FRIENDS..the ones who listened as i droned on and on every day...possibly repeating myself over and over.... the ones who were online that very first time i logged in.... the ones who welcomed me as "one of ye"... nycbt....bobump...twinmom...dolphin...captaincode...cbd.... rosie shinelights... etc...
...and my cyber buddy...whos story seemed identical to mine that we did wonder were we dating the same guy...lol... our lives were like mirror images of each other.... CYN....
...thank you for always being there for me...i know im prob after burning the ears off you in recent weeks... and you dont get mad at me..for having to repeat yourself over and over to me.... i truely consider you a great friend... we may never meet cyn...but i hope we never lose contact.... you will never know how much you have helped me... thank you for your friendship.... lets hope it will continue to grow stronger and we can both find happiness and love....
thank you for posting that message....we never stop to thank the people who make a huge differance in our lives...
Hi Rosie how are you doing was just about to email you and then saw this posting. I am truly grateful that HP brought me to this site and friendships whether they be cyber or otherwise follow the saying of a reason, a season or a lifetime. Luv Leo x
Thank you for sharing your thoughts on the ODAT entry. I read the entry myself and had a hard time relating at first to it. I am sure I do project my feelings of one experience or one person onto many in general. I have a hard time admitting it to myself though. I am afraid to examine how I really feel about people and relationships in my past. It is so easy to just ignore it or rather avoid it.
