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Well, I did it. I told my husband this weekend that I want a divorce. He is absolutely devasted and I feel very sad but I still believe it's the right thing. He made all sorts of promises but I just can't believe him anymore. I won't get into details but I've had many signs from my HP that it's time.
It's amazing how relieved I feel now that it's out in the open. I've been doing a lot of reading in various Al-Anon books and going to meetings. I even called my sponsor today which was very helpful. A few friends have encouraged me to call and I finally listened.
One of the biggest things that is helping me through this is the Serenity Prayer. I'm so grateful to have found Al-Anon! Please keep me in your prayers.
Good for you for taking care of yourself. Even divorce can be "detaching with love". HP will guide you, and will take care of you and your A too, whether he realizes it or not. My prayers are with you. Take it one day at a time, and take it easy.
Becky1 is right, findingmyway. Divorce CAN be detaching with love. I did it myself on December 21st. I love my a deeply with my whole soul and my feeling of serenity and relief is profound. If this is your chosen path, I wish you all good luck. With caring, Diva
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"Speak your truth quietly and clearly..." Desiderata
Thanks so much for your support. I'm sorry that some of you are going through the same thing. It's very sad.
I am feeling very relieved. It's like a great weight has been lifted off my shoulders. My husband is being very calm and we've been able to have many civilized conversations. I told him that he is being served next week. He's not happy but said he understands how I got to this point. He's still hoping we can work through this. He's agreed to not come home and will work out a separation agreement with me so that we don't have to get the lawyers too involved.
The good news is that he's agreed to go to AA and see a therapist. I hope he does but I'll believe it when I see it. It seems like we're both moving to a healthier place.
I'm so thankful for Al-Anon. I know I've said that a million times before, but it has been such a tremendous help. Between my f2f meeting and the online groups, I feel like I can find the tools to help me through this.
