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I posted this morning about my "A" not coming home, and the fact that I had plans to attend the concert and I needed him to watch the kids. Well at noon I called my best friend and she said she would watch the kids for me. I had to wait till noon to call her, because she likes to sleep in on the weekends. Right after I hung up with her, my "A" called. He asked me what time I needed to leave, and I told him 4pm to go get my other friend and then she and I were meeting another friend for dinner. He said he would be home at 4pm, and he also told me to look across from the apartment office and I would see the car, which is not near our apartment, so we don't park there. My car was here all morning and I did not know it.
So I was able to go to my concert, and it was totally awesome. I had such a good time and just let myself go. We had a good time watching all the intoxicated people, and for once I didn't have to worry about being embarassed, I wasn't with one. Tomorrow my "A" and I are supposed to talk, and he is even talking about inpatient treatment, even though the requirement that has been put on him is outpatient. I am not getting my hopes up, because right now he would say anything to get out of the doghouse, but not this time. I have some things to say before he gets out of the doghouse.
Thank you all for the ESH.
Much Love,
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"Today's problems can not be solved if we still think the way we did when we created them" -Albert Einstein
I am so glad that you were able to go to your concert. One of the things I have learned recently is that if we reach out we are usually caught be fore we fall. Our Higher Power has a way with that. Once I reached out and became less isolated by alcoholism I found that people were quite willing to help me out when I needed, I just had to ask. I often feel guilty about asking, but also realize that I would do the same for someone else.
Good luck with you conversation. Stay strong. Say what you mean, mean what you say and try not to say it mean. You will feel better afterwards.
Good for you going to your concert. It's important to our recovery not to let the things we love go because of our A. I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you when you talk to your A. Stand your ground. I do hope he tries impatient therapy. But whatever the choice, know that what and where both of you are suppose to be at the moment. Trust your HP.
Live strong, Karilynn
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It's your life. Take no prisoners. You will have it your way.
