Now that I've got your attention... hahahaha (gotcha, huh?)... ramble to follow....

Our program is based on some pretty good principles.  The structure of our program relies on 3 main legacies: the Steps, Traditions, and Concepts.  (Hence the triangle figure you see on Alanon literature.) 
"The Twelve Steps provide Al-Anon members with spiritual guidance for personal recovery.  The Twelve Traditions provide direction for group unity.  The Twelve Concepts provide guidance in serving each other in our business matters." (Paths to Recovery, p.247). 
From the pamphlet "Information for the Newcomer" (S-4) p.2 - "Anonymity is the spiritual foundation of our program.  It provides a safe place for members to share....We do not talk about the people we see, or repeat what we hear at meetings..."
The pamphlet "Al-Anon Spoken Here" (P-53) is also an excellent read, addressing anonymity, what members talk about at meetings, the point of the slogans and Serenity Prayer, why sponsorship and one-on-one sharing is necessary, reason for focus on self, and the reason for the use of CAL (conference approved literature) in Al-Anon.
I have a bunch of these pamphlets.  I'd go to ftf (face to face) meeting and see one I didn't have and pick it up.  Sometimes they seem to repeat what another pamphlet has said, but I have found they might say it in a different way which really reinforces to me what this program is all about and how it works. 
Why should I follow any of these principles and/or guidelines?  Well one good reason for me would be how it helps me to be a better person.  In following them, I find I don't gossip, I don't get into other people's business, I don't take things others say personally (as if everything revolved around me), I allow myself to live my life with dignity and I allow others to live their life with dignity by not trying to be God and telling them what they should be doing, thinking, saying.  Simply not my business.  My business is to learn and try to be the best person I can.  To control myself, my actions, my thoughts, my feelings.  To show compassion and unconditional love and acceptance.  To choose a healthy way to respond to unacceptable behavior rather than lashing back with the same kind of unacceptable behavior.  Thank goodness for this program, for what I've learned here, for being able to even see these things now - to be aware of them so that I can work on myself.... those are the 3 A's...awareness, acceptance, action. 
To disregard the program principles and allow myself to focus on others (and what I may view as their weaknesses/faults) does only one thing - it weakens my own program and my own recovery.  It is not up to me to take anyone else's inventory.  My own inventory is my only business.  Frankly, I have in the past jumped into a conversation, not knowing the background, and vented at others for being (as I perceived it) mean, only to find out later that the person I felt was "attacking" was simply sharing some program principles which I was too new at the time to know about or understand.  I have learned since to listen more and to think about what is trying to be said, rather than to open my mouth and fly off the handle.  I love what was shared once about how "no one can make me feel" anything...it is myself who chooses to feel whatever it is I am feeling.  My choice.  I can't blame my feelings on anyone else.  They are MY feelings.  I have control of them.  That is something I do need to remind myself of often, and listening to others share helps in that. 
I still have that tendency to get angry when I see something I feel is wrong.  The question is, how am I going to handle my anger?  How do I respond to it appropriately/in a healthy way?  Is it even something which it is MY business to respond to?  I think I have to ask myself those questions first before doing anything. 
What I really think is that I need to focus on my own inventory and program, to work on my recovery, and to just share about me and what has/is helping me.  Looking at myself, at how these principles, legacies, slogans, etc. have helped me enables me to keep growing and to share with others how I do it.  My sharing also opens the door to others who relate and who may have experienced more that in turn can help me to see something new and valuable I can use.  And sometimes a share just reminds me of where I've been and don't want to be again, and that helps too as it reinforces to me the value of what I've been learning here, that I have been able to progress some, and that I need to continue doing so.
So thank you all, every single one of you, for being here.  Keep coming back!