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Barbara


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We were on our way out for lunch today. Husband asked he where I went this morning. Told him to a meeting. What meeting? AlAnon and he left it at that.

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Dolphin123


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Barbara,


Well now the cat is out of the bag. Now maybe this will open a door for some communication with him.


Glad it went well.


Much Love,



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Barbara,


You know the wheels are turning in HIS mind from now on!  Maybe this is the beginning of progress for him as well.  I wish you well with your meetings, and with your A.


Kathi



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she123


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Barbara, that is exactly what happened to me many years ago.  When I started going to Alanon I was afraid to tell my husband, so I lied.  Then I ran out of excuses and after three meetings had learned that this is an 'honest programme' so I shouldn't begin it with a lie.  Just as you did, I quietly told him.  I didn't elaborate or give any reasons why I was going, simply said where I had gone the previous night.  I got the same reaction.... or non-reaction.


I now know we don't need their approval but in my very very early days of recovery I was still seeking that.


Well done you.   That's a huge step to take.  Carry on taking the gentle small steps towards your recovery.       Sheila


 



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bobump


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It's not a contest, but your doing better than me in this category.  LOL


My A asked me why I would be late picking her up, I told her I had an appt, she aske, I repeated, an appt.  Oh well, still in avoid the BS/confrontation mode.



Bob



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I'm new here (1st post), but I can certainly identify with this thread.  I went to my first al-anon meeting on Friday (a lot of firsts for me lately!) and told DH that I was going to a meeting-left it at that.  I know he's gonna blow up if he finds out, but I also know that I'm gonna have to tell him eventually!


Maybe he knows and that's why he didn't question it.  Who knows.  Anyway, getting off-topic here.  I wanted to say that I'm happy that you were able to tell your DH without confrontation.  There's hope for me maybe.


 



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