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yesturday i broke down to my hubbie about how i have been feeling. i feel like no one understands including him. my dad is the A and it hurts me and the rest of our family. my husband is the most amazing man, and is always supportive. but a few weeks ago he made a comment like saying "don't get all worked up b/c that's the way your dad is and always will be." there is this tiny part of me that hopes my dad will wake up and realize that he is killing himself. but i know that he never will. i wonder if what my hubbie said was him trying to tell me that he doesn't want to talk about it anymore. that doesn't sound like something he would do, but part of me just wonders...
See your feeling your feelings again, good for you! Good for you! I think your husband is not putting you off, he already knows the three C's without even knowing it. You didn't Cause it, you can't Control it, and you can't Cure it. As much as we want to we can't. It sounds as though you are looking for meetings, that is such a good start! You keep coming back here. It's easy to think about the A in your life all the time, so now I'm going to ask you "what are you doing for you?" Try keeping a journal, or little notes, I find that when I write things down, even here, that it is released somewhat from my brain instead of it all spinning around and around. Hang in there, your doing great!
When I attended a cake night at my ex's 1-year sobriety, there was a woman there, accepting her 3-month coin, and she was 81 years old. Full of life and loving life sober. Her story brought tears to most of the room, but bottom line is that this was her SEVENTH stint in rehab, and she was bound and determined to make it this time!! I have no idea of whether or not she is still sober or not, but try not to underestimate the human spirit.... your Dad may just "get it", one day, and find sobriety.... Many people do!!
Take care
Tom
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I suspect your husband is trying to tell you to just accept your dad the way he is. He see's u hurting and it upsets him . He dosen't understand your feelings about your dad he only knows it causes u pain . give him a hug and thank him for listening . Louise
