The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
i have not spoken to my dad in weeks, and i am sad. i feel like i have no closure with him b/c we didn't talk about the situation. if you try to have a conversation that is confrentaional, he blocks you out, asks you to leave, and then pretends that nothing happened. so i figured i would send him a little something(even though he lives just a few miles away). here goes...
this is such a sad story that you need to hear; it's all about you...daddy dear.
there once was a man who lived in a house; he had beautiful children & a loving spouse.
he truely had it all!; being a family man was his great call.
he coached all the kids' sports teams; he had the perfect family it seems.
everyone loved him & he had many friends;he had no idea it would all end.
he should have known; he was way in the danger zone.
and soon enough it all ended; everyone was offended.
it was his choice to choose "IT" over us; we can't understand how he could leave us.
to think or to drink?; he chose the drink.
even though "IT" makes him really sick; "IT" is still "IT" what he chooses to pick.
he has hurt everyone; and now we are all done!
we cannot watch this anymore; that's why we're closing the door.
we're sorry it had to end this way; but to you we have nothing more to say.
good-bye
we will always love you; but we cannot watch what you do.
We all do what we think we need to do. What is best for us. The poem is good. It is an interesting way to express how you see your life and your dad's choices.
My question is have you ever just written him a letter that tells him how you feel? I always do best when I write it down. I don't know how your family dynamic is, do you think he would take the poem serious. I don't mean in any way the poem is funny, but will he understand what you are trying to get him to understand, which is how you feel.
I don't know if what I wrote is helpful, just something I thought.
maybe what i would do FIRST, is write a letter that goes B4 this one , that tells him 1-----WHAT he has done to U....2-----how it made/makes U feel/ the impact on U........and 3------what amend U want/ R making to take care of U (the desired amend would be his gettting into aa, but thats his choice--and i don't hold my breath waiting for alkies to get into recovery) so what amend??? maybe the amend has to be on your end, saying what U R going to do to take care of U....... please take what works, leave the rest/ rosie
