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My A wants me to take some money out of savings to pay our daycare bill so that he has money to go drink. I don't want to do this, but I do NOT want to fight about it, so I am willing to do it to avoid an argument. I am not sure what to do. I really don't have the energy to fight with him, but I don't want to help him either. I guess I will have to ask my HP for help on this one. Thanks for listening.
Not sure this will help. When i read your post I though to myself why not just say no. You don't have to fight. Just walk away. If he yells or want to begin a fight. Just say nothing. It takes to to fight. Well just a idea. A year ago I couldn't have done it but now I can. Think about it.
I really understand about not having the energy to fight anymore. I can totally relate to that. I agree with what Nikkilou said, but that is sometimes easier said than done.
Leaving it to your HP sounds like the sure answer at this point.
Can you tell him that it is in a fixed term savings account that can't be touched? Just a thought a little bit of manipulation from the other side here. Luv Leo x
Hi leah,