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HI, I miss all my chat friends, but no way will the window open for me..several things go wrong..don't know how to fix it. I really appreciated your support of me..and caring. Some days are better than others..and today, I just really lost it, cried, been awhile for those bitter stinging tears to reappear. I wish I could have got on chat with you..I just need a hug..ty...
http://www.12stepforums.net/index.html I don't know how you get in, I use the mail link. There have been some problems lately & lots of web spilts. Tonight it looks like the format of the room was totally different but I got in easily. Hope it works for you if not others have been using
Know that for every tear you shed, that is one more feeling you have felt.
I don't know about you, but I was raised to NOT feel. All my feelings had to be justified, and if I didn't have the skills to justify them, I felt they were not valid. Imagine, a 7 yr old girl trying to justify her sadness over finding out that her "mom" wasn't so!
When I found alanon my sponsor lovingly guided me to understand that feelings are real, and do not have to be justified! I spend so much of my first few years in alanon crying just because i finally could!
Also, when i am crying, that takes my focus off of other people, and brings it to myself. Before Alanon, that was rare. Crying also brought me closer to my HP.
thanks, I needed that...yes I was raised too, to not show feelings, and if I cried, my father would hit me, to show me I needed something to cry about....the typical response from an A parent.
Kat, I too, know what it is like to not have any feelings. So it is a great joy to have our feelings again, even when they hurt. I hope you can join chat again soon. Blessings and hugs to you - mebjk