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Be able to be alone. Lose not the advantage of solitude. - Sir Thomas Browne
Loneliness and solitude are very different things. When we're lonely, we feel sad about being alone. But when we're in solitude, we have ourselves and can be at peace. Many of us have had so much pain in our relationships that we often feel lonely. Or we may have been so frightened of being alone that now we avoid it like poison. All of us have known the pain of loneliness, even while we were surrounded by people.Through solitude we can become more fully acquainted with ourselves, develop greater honesty, and deepen our spiritual development. Each day, as we spend time alone in meditation, we make conscious contact with God and join other men in spirit who also walk this path. Even in our solitude we are not alone.In this quiet time, I reestablish peace within and find the spirit of my fellow men and women on a similar path.
>>>>ok, i am getting used to being alone with me...i am not as sad about it....i think i am lovingly accepting it..making my peace with it, cuz i enjoyed my own company over the holiday.......i am not so sad about being alone.....i have me and i was sorta at peace about it over the holiday...i am starting to not care if i have anyone.....i do not avoid being alone anymore......my solitude is enabling me to be acquainted with me.....greater honesty......spiritual ?? i don't know....relationship with my higher self...my inner higher power??? yeah, ok, maybe.....i dont' call my hp god, i call it my hp or higher self.....its in ME!!! WITHIN me....in my solitude i have my inner child and my higher self........maybe i "want" someone to share with, but i am not "needing" someone to share with....it bothers me/ hurts me less and less....so maybe i am comming into my own.....its ok to be only with me....i am being good to me now...nice to me now...i can do what i want.....not being abused.....used to be i couldn't stand my own company.....now i rather enjoy it....perhaps i am making my peace with/ lovingly accepting being with me......what is the saying??? "i am making friends with my situation in life" now i need to learn how to be happy and secure in my being poor....to give up the fear of an impoverished old age......to be able to make friends with it and not care!!!!! i guess that is what the "letting go" theme is about......just make friends with it and doing that causes me to LET GO!!!!!!! one thing i noticed....i COULD have gone somewhere over the holidays i guess, but i did not....AND i enjoyed "hanging out with me"......maybe i am beginning to love and really accept me......
That is very cool Rosie Light Shines. I too have learned to value my solitude. I cannot wait to get alone and read, or talk to my HP, who to me is God. Share, look inward, retreat to aloneness.
Isn't it nice to be able to enjoy one's own company. It was not always like that for me. I was scared to death to be alone. I wouldn't stay alone at night especially. Not anymore. I wait for the solitary times. I cherish them. I use them to full advantage.
