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BlueCloud


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Dear Roomies,


This week has been tough. My seven-year relationship ended this week. The original break-up was a few months ago, but we'd been talking and I had had hope that we could work it out. The finality of the break has left me a little stunned, saddened, and I feel a great loss. I've been grieving and allowing myself to cry and feel all of my feelings: anger, sadness, lonliness, and loss. Admidst all of this, I have been SO GRATEFUL for the program. My anchor has been the mantra: "Take care of yourself FIRST" along with the slogans: Live and Let Live, Easy Does It, One Day at A Time, Say what you mean, don't say it mean." If the relationship has to end, I want to make sure I conduct myself with dignity and, as one of you recently said, without leaving my claw marks on it. LOL.


This morning I was feeling sad and tearful. I had a coupon for the local Massage School for a discount, and I made an appointment for one of the more luxurious packages--1 1/2 hour massage with facial and body scrub. As the masseuse worked, I pretended that it was my Higher Power who was soothing me with his/her touch, and telling me how much I meant to him/her as a Child of God, and how much he/she loved me. I felt sooo cared for and when I left, I felt grounded, centered, joyful and vibrant.


The more that I am in the program, the more I learn about what it really means to take care of ME, as the unique person I am. I learn who I am and what I really need to feel fully nurtured and to thrive. Thanks to the program, I am paying close attention to what helps me feel good and creating a MENU of things that nurture me.


Of course, coming to the board to post and read is one of my menu items! I appreciate everyone's posts; I  get soooo much ES&H here! Thank you!!!


BlueCloud



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sonya


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I love this concept - A MENU of items that nurture you.  Great idea, and at just the right time.   I think I will create one as well.  Thank you for sharing this.


Sonya



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Maria123


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((((((((((BlueCloud))))))))))),


It does get better ~ slowly but surely ~ good for you for nurturing you !!!!!! I love it.  Here's a non-CAL approved book that is fantastic.  It's an easy read and the poems will have you feeling a range of emotions.


How to Survive the Loss of a Love (Mass Market Paperback)
by Peter McWilliams, Harold H. Bloomfield, Melba Colgrove


Keep coming and Keep Posting,


Maria123



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Powerless


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I am happy that you see the "Light".  I, too, am starting to see a light.  I don't yet see the end of my tunnel, but see a light guiding my way.  I am glad you enjoyed the massage, you deserve it!



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notsonew1111


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what a wonderful thing to do, picturing hp nurturing you and soothing you. i will have to try that one anytime i feel something good on my body. ty for sharing

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Sorry to hear of your break up. You seem to be taking care of your self which is very important. It is good that the program is helping you. I too have learn alot from it since I have been here for 13 months. Like you I am getting stronger.

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