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well my a came home after work and grabbed the two bags i had packed last night wouldn't give me his keys and said he'll be back another time to give me money to pay the rent. he said he has to go to the casino with his mom. i hate this feeling so much. he is acting like he just doesnt care and i know he's lying about going out with his mom, she is not even home right now. so why did he have to rush out? why am i even questioning any of this? he just doesnt care so why am i wasting my time being so upset. so i guess he is moving out. this is it. i dont even know what to do. i have to relearn a life without him. it will be so hard. i have speant seven years with him but see that this is truely not a healthy relationship. even though he is sober he still is treating me with disrespect. this just hurts so much. pray for me along with me to god to help me get through this and not let him manipulate me anymore. ty
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stay in the now...dont look forward, dont look back....your life is what you make of it
When I asked my A to leave, he quietly packed and left while I was running errands. It has always been me to track him down when he has "disapeared" BUT this last time I didn't call, I worked hard on my daily readings, doing things I had been putting off, praying, spending time figuring out how to pay the bills and what could I live without that was pulling on my bank account. Ya know what, I won't lie, I missed him terribly, but I came here and posted and got so much support. When he did call, 10 days later, he couldn't hook me into his craziness! I just wouldn't allow it. He would hang up on me and I wouldn't call him back. He finally called back after the 4th or 5th hang up and tried this line "you don't love me" of course I said ...yes I do, more than you know...he said then you would accept me just the way I am....I said ..."oh, I do accept you just the way you are, BUT I don't have to live with you because I love you" Well he didn't know what to say....it took 6 more days for him to ask to come back home and he still hadn't quit drinking. I can tell you my support system is so strong, Al-Anon, friends, family, my children. My A decided 25 days ago to quit drinking. He is doing it his way and that's fine with me. Hang in there. Focus on you as much as you can. Feel your feelings, don't push them down. I did a lot of crying and felt so relieved after a good cry.
We are here for you. Have a cry if you want to. Let us know how you are feeling and please know that you are not alone with your MIP family waiting to support you. Luv Leo xx
Not , he is doing what u asked him to do ." Leave "
Our part of the insanity in relationships is doing the same thing over and over again expecting this time it will be different. find some meetings not - it's not over yet by a long shot.
