The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
You all may know from earlier post that I left my husband a month ago. It hasn't always been easy but I don't regret my decision at all. It seems that I am now coming out of a fog. We all talk about the alcoholic's denial but I am also having to deal with my own denial. Looking back I can see that it began very early in our relationship. You know I could sit here and blame the alcoholic for everything that happened in our relationship but that wouldn't be entirely fair. We were two very sick people who connected and were looking for someone else to fill that void in our life.
I have been keeping myself busy with walking, reading, going to meetings and getting together with friends and family. I have been going to therapy and building a stronger relationship with my HP. For the first time I feel encouraged about the future.
If it were not for this board and Alanon I never would have had the strength or courage to take the stand that I needed to take for myself.
I am so happy to hear that and I can so relate to your experience. I have been doing things with and for myself now that I have been told all my life I could never accomplish. Is it no wonder huh?
Keep on keepin' on ~ all it takes is one to make a change.
Maria123
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If I am not for me, who will be? If I am only for myself, then who am I? If not now, when?
