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nycbt


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It might seem alittle silly to talk about this but I set up my first boundary. Yesterday this girl wanted to order Chinese I said ok and then when we were figuring it all out she did not include the tip. I ask her why she didn't want to give a tip so she said they earn money why should she pay. So I thought it over and decided I wasn't going to order with her. She was upset but it was a start. So I told my sponsor this an she brought to my attention that i set up a boudary.

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marmare


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Good for you!!!! I was a bartender years ago, and yes I made an hourly wage but the tips were what kept me and my four boys going.  If you get good service then a tip is nice.  Good for you on boundary setting.  The more boundaries you set the easier it gets.


Hugs Mary



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bubbles1990


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Way to go nycbt Tips are in importian to those who serve us the only reason I don't tip someone is if there serves was really bad!!!

Way to go in seting your boundary for yourself that is great!!

Love ya ((((((((nycbt)))))) Hugs

Love bubbles123

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Dolphin123


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Good for you! Baby steps, and one day at a time!


Doesn't matter how big the steps are that you take, what matters is that you are taking them.


Much Love,



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nycbt,


HOORAY HOORAY HOORAY HOORAY HOORAY HOORAY HOORAY HOORAY HOORAY HOORAY!!!!


I'm so happy for you...remember, progress, not perfection!! 


(((Hugs)))


Kathi



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Isn't it funny how Alanon sneaks in your life?


josey


 



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cdb


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Hello nycbt,


Wow, what a good example of what a boundary is. Boundaries are for us. This boundary must make you feel good about yourself as well as enter into your value system. You may in fact put out a good example for this other girl but don't know it yet. Way to work the program! cdb :)



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rosie light shines


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GR8  job!!!!  nycbt, you did set a boundary....LOVED it..... what a good start!!!!!   it gets easier as you go..........ttyl/ rosie

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