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I would like to request prayers for my neice, my sister's daughter. She has been accused of child abuse to her infant daughter, and we don't know if it's true or not. I just found this out this morning from another sister in Indiana. The court hearing is today and they will put the baby in foster care til they decide what to do. My other sister did say that our parents (the baby's great-grandparents) have offered to be my great-neice's guardians, if the court will allow it, since they are both retired and live close to my neice. The doctor's report states that the baby has a slight skull fracture and a hairline fracture on her right arm. My sister told me that's all she knows right now. This sister that has relayed this info to me isn't my neice's mother - she's another one of my sisters. I know it sounds confusing.....sorry!
I hope this is not true about my neice harming her own daughter, but you just never know. My neice is kind of a rough girl, only early 20's, and lives with her boyfriend, who is also rough. The police are suspecting one or both of them of the abuse. Just please pray that the best thing is done for the baby.
I will pray for both your neice an her daughter. It must be a scary thing to have to go throught that end of it. I hope things work out for the best for her child. Remember that foster families are not bad if the it takes the child out of an abusive family... and foster families tend to be nice people who care about the welfare of the children.
Whether it is true or not, everyone needs support to find the right path. All children need to be protected and have an advocate I hope that your family can stay strong to find the truth.
Am so sorry to hear this. It is tricky, sorting these things out - babies do not usually have fractures, but, what do we know? Could be brittle bones. The main thing is, this infant has to be protected. With all the best will in the world, maybe, you need to hand this over, out of your control?
We have to be responsible for our own actions, so, you check up on progress of baby, even if in foster care, you can register an interest. Dont cut off from your relatives, they young, most hated of all society, if abused their child...... Take care of you, lmt, and your own principles, what I find, my own esh, is this, if I act in a way that I believe truthful, non judgemental, and, I am happy to defend, then, that is all I can do.
Sad you going through this, lmt, but glad you shared with us - gives me a reality check on my own problems.
Lots of love to you, hope to see you soon in chat room,
Thanks Flora and Tea...I appreciate your thoughts and prayers. Flora, I am ok with this, I know the authorities will do what's best in her interest. My dad and stepmom are having background checks on them as we speak, they are trying to get temporary custody. And they are in their 70's! But one of my sisters has offered to take her if need be, and I offered as well. I hate to think that this is in my family...such a shame. I don't harbor any hate towards my neice, I love her very much. But she had a hard upbringing, and her dad and my sister were into a lot of drugs, etc. They are divorced now however. The weird thing is my sister, my neice's mom, hasn't offered to take the baby - her own granddaughter! But it's best, because she's into drinking, drugs, sleeping around, and just isn't the mom type. If I harbor any ill feelings, it would definitely be towards her. But I'm trying to not let that happen.
I did talk with one of my sisters tonite, and she said the baby is in the hospital, that she isn't well enough to leave. She also said that there seems to be more to this story. The fracture of the arm seems to be an old fracture and appears to have healed somewhat. That means the baby couldn't have fallen on her own, because she's only just started pulling herself up (she is 8 mos old). And her face on the left side apparently has bruising and is swollen. They also said that there seems to be some internal stuff going on in her little head, that there was a mushy feel there. Sooo scary for the baby! That's about all I know for now.
Please keep the baby and all of us in your prayers. I only want what's best for the baby. Hailey is the baby's name, by the way. If it means she goes into foster care, or that someone in my family takes her, then I'll be ok with that. I do feel sad that I don't get to see her. I haven't ever seen her, actually. I don't get up to Indiana much, except maybe once a year.
Thanks again for listening. I do appreciate it very much.
My step-granddaughter's name is Halie too. My sympathy to your family and my prayers will be given for all concerned. So many in pain right now, we could pray all day just for this room's people!
Truth will be found and your niece and baby will be taken care of by our HP. He knows best for all concerned. Thanks for sharing this with us. Sometimes feel like my best use is praying for someone else.
im so sorry to hear what you are going through. my prayers are with you and your family. that poor little baby , just hearing it brings tears to my eyes. hp will take care of her. i hope the emails i sent you put a smile on your face like your words always do for me. tc talk to you soon
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