I went to see my parents this weekend.  my dad is the A.  When i talked to my mom on thurs and let her know I was coming up she said " i'll worn you know he's on a bender".  I drove 2 and half hours expecting the usual.  I had told my mom that me and the b/f are in the process of splitting up and I just needed to think and figure it out.  I pulled into the drive and there was my dad waiting for me.  He was sober for the first time in a year.  He came and hugged me and told me I looked like shit in a joking way.  I couldn;t stop the tears.  I needed him so badly and for once he was there.  FOr the first time in years I didn't want to leave.  I asked him what I should do about the b/f thing and would you belief he said take it one day at a time.  I started to laugh because it just sounded so funny coming out of his mouht.

My mom and me talked like friends for the first time in years.  I was not angry there was no resentment.  I've let it go....its not worth it.  I just want my family back as disfunctional as they are....they are my family.

Thanks for listening....the only people who truly understand.

brandie