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I've seen a good deal of posts about crying. My A gave me this box last year when he was in rehab. It has a bunch of his favorite quotes. But this one is particularly good. I showed it to him this weekend as he has been crying a lot lately because now that he's sober, and doing mental health is emotions are suddenly coming to the surface. He's learning that it's okay for a man to cry.
"Crying only a little bit is no use. You must cry until your pillow is soaked. Then you can get up and laugh."
Have a good cry if you need too. I have been. I'll tell you about later in another post. It's all good.
Live strong, Karilynn
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Karilynn, I could not agree more. A good cry is a cathartic experience and a great tension reliever. I am a "type A" personality, which must be abundantly clear to all of you, and I do not let things "roll off my back." So once in a while I have to get rid of everything. I do my best crying in the shower. There I have privacy, can cry as hard as I wish, and by the time I am shiny clean, hair washed, and teeth brushed, I have a whole new outlook. I leave the shower with a changed, refreshed attitude, and I'm ready to start a brand new day. I recommend an occasional good cry. In fact, I actually get to the point where I look forward to it. Sound crazy to some of you? Don't rush to judgment until you've given it a try...
Thanks Karilynn. I can't believe you got that quote from your A. My recovering A won't shed a tear and won't show vulnerability. I on the other hand am sniffing because my husband just left for his job in another state. It just kills me when he comes and goes (his choice) and brings up my abandonment issues. But hey I just need to cry and cry and cry and acknowledge my deep sadness. Wouldn't it be great to come out laughing!!!
