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pixel04


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Hi,

Recently, I have been having trouble letting go of a friend's behavior. We have been through a lot together, much of it good, but lately I have found her behavior to be pretty hurtful. Each morning, I pray for the strength to accept her behavior for what it is and let it go. I don't want to keep being swayed by my response to it, but I am all over the place with it.

Today I read about how in other people's hurtful behavior there is a lesson for me. I am being taught what I won't tolerate, what isn't acceptable for me. That was an eye opener for me.

Now I feel like I have another step I can take. I can respond in a way that is respectful of me. She has made her choice, to be hurtful, and I've been so worried about her choice I haven't paid attention to the choices I have for myself in front of me. I'm often told to pray for the people that get me riled. Nice theory, I thought. That's hard to do. But now I think I can do it. Because I think praying for her is just the thing that is going to allow me to let her go.

Thanks for listening,
kristen

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kitty


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What you said was so true!  We have to 'let go & let god'. 


Worrying about other ppl just keeps our mind's not focusing on our own lives.  Most of us are relatively able bodied & proudly want to stand on our own two feet.  It seems like the A's just resent us for "helping". 


Tough love is just that but I know I am the only person I can control or change.  But the beauty of that too is (it's not completely totally the way it has to be) see if I make even just one small change in my own behavior, it forces the other person to experience it & maybe make a change too.  I'm not suggesting doing anything out of manipulation, just that our behavior creates ripples (in the water) & it touches others.


thanks for sharing, -k



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bob6502


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Thanks Pixel, more great reminders for me today.  I can pray for people that I have issues with. It takes the hurt and anger I feel towards that person and helps me to be a more humble/nonjudging person. I am back to being centered.  Thanks Pixel, SenoraBob

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