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I have come to the conculison that I am not ready to take major steps right now with out hurting my self mental. When my husband takes my car and I do get very angry. However if I call the police they will tell me that he has a license and then they wouldn't sovle anything. My husband would be angry and then life will be very hard to live with. If he gets a DWI that is another story. I do get angry and take his key. But aren't we not to treat them like little kids. If we take something away isn't that like punishing them.
I try not carry over what happen the night before into the next day, because I don't want a repeat of it again. I do though mention somethings that I didn't like what happen. I know he doesn't remeber which is hard to deal with.
There are things I do that I wouldn't want brought up again. I have asking him to go back to the program and he doesn't seem to want to go back. So I can only cross my fingers and continue to come here and go to my meeting.
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Hey everyone watch me grow. I go thru good & bad times. each day i am getting stronger.
Me too. I am not ready to take on everything that my husband throws at me. I think that is a good strategy to keep the intensity down. Also, I know that we can make decisions when we are ready.
No we are not supposed to punish them. When it comes to the car, I will not alow my children to drive with my husband. As he drives drunk, this is for their protection, and not against him.
I do however hide the keys when he is very bad. We live in an area with many children. While I cannot protect the world, I care about these kids and do not want to see them in danger. While I want him to feel the consequenses of his actions, I don't want it at the expense of an innocent child, mine or anyone elses.
