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I am not sure where to start. A fter my husband got outof detox a couple of months ago, he has not worked a program, but certainly has been acting as a normal husband should. We had been getting along really well.
Yesterday, he called me at work as he had gotten off early. He sounded high and I asked if he had taken pills. I could tell from his speech that he had, but of course he denied it. I came home from work and knew for sure. My sons therapist was here and he proceeded to chop up some of what he says was Loratabs and snort them. I believe it was actually crystal meth. I called the police and they came but said that there was nothing they could do. They said that they also believed it to be crystal meth. He was very apologetic and I went to bed.
This morning, he was angry and throwing a fit. He called me a bitch for calling the police on him. He even called the police department and cursed at the sherriff. He actually told me that if I don't make my ten year old son move out, he is leaving. My ten year old son is severly mentally ill and requires much attention. He said that I don't care about him or the girls because all of my attention goes to my son. I can't believe he said that. I have been asking him to move out for almost a year...this may be my chance to get him out. I don't want him to make my son feel like it is his fault. Yes, I have my own issues and am far from perfect, but it was his addiction that ended our marriage.
I think that you ought to change your name. You are far from Powerless. On the contrary, you are very Powerful. The love, care and attention that you give your children doesn't come from a Powerless person. It comes from a very strong Powerful person.
Here's part of the Lance Armstrong Foundation manifesto that I keep on my fridge to remind me. Go to www.laf.org to read it. Replace the word cancer with whatever you chose:
We believe in life. Your life. And that you must not let "cancer" take control of it.
We believe in energy: channeled and fierce. We believe in focus: getting smart and living strong. Because we're (Al-Anon or whoever) passionate about helping you live every minute of your life with every ounce of your being.
It's your life. You will have it your way. Take no prisoners.
It may very well be the HP sending you a signal: now or never. Go for it! We're behind you every step of the way.
Live strong, Karilynn
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It's your life. Take no prisoners. You will have it your way.
No one would tell me my ten-year-old son had to go and then expect to spend another night in my home. I would kick him out so quickly he wouldn't know what happened. Your son doesn't deserve this, and neither do the other family members. Now about him calling you a bitch...did the children hear that? This guy is a loser. You can do better.
With great concern, Diva
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"Speak your truth quietly and clearly..." Desiderata
