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I am very dissappointed. This attorney was recommended to me and I also checked out her ratings in Matindale Hubble. So, I was expecting something more than an attorney with pat responses and self-serving advice -- especially since I was paying a very high hourly rate in excess of $250.
Prior to going to meet the attorney I had stated that I wanted to get some answers. I was not immediately ready to file for divorce. We had some things to take care of first. I wanted to know what my legal liablility is in the event my husband, the a, drives while intoxicated and harms someone. We own a business together and he drives for business purposes. So, instead of giving me an answer, she tells me to call my insurance company. Did I need to pay money for that response?
Then she began putting pressure on me. She told me to file for the divorce immediately. When I told her that I wont file until the business is sold, she told me I should give my share of the business to my husband and walk away from my lifesavings which I have invested in it. I told her that was not an option.
Then she told me that she can tell that I am depressed because I am unwilling to file immediately and I seem confused as to my intentions. I wonder how many people going to see a divorce attorney walk in with a smile on their faces and joy in their hearts?
I've decided that she is not the attorney to represent me.
I spoke with an attorney last week for the same reasons. I wanted to see how to get my a to leave. Well, she didnt tell me what I wanted to hear either. SHe said " you cant" .. You have to leave or file for divorce and get a temporary injunction to make him leave. She went on to tell me that a temporary injunction doesnt happen often so i might want to make other arrangements. I would probably end up with the house with the kids but in the meantime, either deal with it or move yourself and your kids..
My point ??? I am with you, it is so hard I am just going to keep praying and protecting myself and my kids.. Taking it one day at a time.. That is ALL I can do..
Thanks for that post. It makes me feel so much better.
I'm not sure about my attorney either and I have filed the divorce and had a few very expensive phone conversations.
He has a great rep--but he lacks a bit of the emotional factor if you know what I mean.
To him my A is just another "son of a gun" who is not supporting his family. And that is a true fact---but the addiction is running his life and he is running from life.
I too wanted an easy fix to get him to move out. That's not easy to do. My A continues to come and go and I have no legal leg to stand on. I could move out--but with 2 toddlers that's just not easy--or is that an excuse??
He's here right now and I really want him to leave. He's not drinking--never does at home.
