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The image of an avalanche helps me to give the drinking alcoholic in my life the dignity to make his/her own decisions. It is as though his actions are forming a mountain of alcohol-related troubles. A mound of snow cannot indefinately grow taller without tumbling down: neither can the alcoholics mountain of problems.
Alanon has helped me to refrain from throwing myself in front of the alcoholic to protect him/her, or from working feverishly to add to the mountain in order to speed its downward slide. I am powerless over his/her drinking and his pain. The most helpful course of action is for me to stay out of the way!
If the avalanche hits the alcoholic, it must be the result of his/her own actions. I will do my best to allow HP to care for him/her even when painful consequences of his/her choices hit full force. That way I dont get in the way of his/her chance to want a better life.
Todays reminder.......I will take care to avoid building an avalanche of my own. Am I heaping up resentments, excuses, and regrets that have the potential to destroy me? I dont have to be buried under them before I address my own problems. I can begin today....Hope this analagy helps some of you in todays problems.,,One day at a time,,,gardengal
Thanks, Gardengal--I like the part about staying out of the way of the avalanche--so it doesn't surround me and destroy my life along with the A. That's about all we can do. We certainly can't control it, but our choices can be good ones. Thanks for sharing, Love and Blessings, Annie
