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I posted a yesterday that he did not come home the night before, same old story ran into someone who had some meth. (Duh! when your co-workers wife is a dope cook, your going to run into it.) And this same couple, the co-worker and the dope cook, have been having problems with CPS. (Child Protective Services.) Their children were taken away and now they have hoops to jump through to get them back; and the husband, from what I have been told, is doing everything he can to get them back. He is currently trying to find a place away from his wife so he can get the kids back. Now he is telling my "A" that CPS is throwing more hoops at him to jump through. I don't know if this is true, but if they are then he should jump through them ot get his kids back.
----------Anyway my point is: Now my "A" wants to go on this crusade and shine the light on how bad CPS treats people. (I am not here to discuss that, from my observations through my empolyment, CPS has some faults like any other government agency, but for hte most part does some good.) He wants to do this so he can have a project to focus on so he will not use/drink . He called me at work to tell me this, and I almost said, well why don't you focus on your program, that will help you stay clean and sober. I am grateful to my HP that I did not say that. I just said ok. And told him that he is only getting one side of the story. And that CPS actually does alot of good. And almost everyone who has had their kids taken away is going to have bad things to say about CPS.
I so badly wanted to ask him why he doesn't go to AA or NA meetings, but that is not my place. His recovery is his business, just like mine is my business. He wants to do whatever he can to stay away from the meetings that he creates these missions for himself. I think in the end he knows the program will work, and he doesn't want recovery now. He is so stuborn. But I don't try to figure out what he is thinking. He is insane, and I don't want to try to get inot his head, my own head is scary enough!
I am so grateful to this program and all of you. Before I would have said what I wanted to, and then thought about it. Honestly I am still in awe that I was able to hold my tongue, I think my HP was holding it or something, lol. I am going to keep focusing on me, working my program, stay out of his recovery, and keep loving him, supporting him, and praying for him.
Anyway, Thanks for listening!
Much Love,
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"Today's problems can not be solved if we still think the way we did when we created them" -Albert Einstein
Yeah!!!!! It is hard for me to hold my tounge, funny I was just getting to post about me not being able to hold my tounge....you will have to read my post. LOL It is hard when they are acting all crazy to not interupt their recovery....Hang in there, your doing great!
Great job... !!! I dont think i could have done it.. I continue to be in awe by the strength of those on this board. I have learned so much in such a short time.
Good Job Dolphin!! I used to be such a control freak and HAD to tell my A just what he should do and how he should do it. Now I just stay out of it cuz it only makes me insane when I KNOW that he is not doing it right!!! LOL It used to piss me off so bad that he wouldn't do what I said, how much easier it would be if he just followed my lead. What a crazy person I was, trying to run both of our lives!!! My life is so much easier now, surprise, surprise! So thank you for sharing, you're doing great in my humble opinion :)
. He called me at work to tell me this, and I almost said, well why don't you focus on your program, that will help you stay clean and sober. I am grateful to my HP that I did not say that. I just said ok. And told him that he is only getting one side of the story. And that CPS actually does alot of good. And almost everyone who has had their kids taken away is going to have bad things to say about CPS.