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mom to 2


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He's been in rehab now for 4 days.


I'm going tomorrow for family day.


I've barely seen my husband in 2 months.  We've been together for 21 years.


In case you don't know my story--he went to rehab in March for 30 days---3000 miles away from where we live.


Since, he has spiraled to a place that is a million times worse than his worse drunk night.  He just abandoned us for nearly 2 months due to  drugs and alcohol and over spending.


I'll see where it takes us.


mom to 2



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((((((((((mom to 2)))))))))))),


I will be praying for you.


Take care of yourself.


Much Love,



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Maria123


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I will keep praying for you and the kids Mom,


Keep coming, you will get better no matter what happens with hubby.


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I'll see where it takes us.

HI dear, when I read this, it made me feel like, geez what is "it?" What would make a person' wait to see where something else takes me?

I want to choose where I go. I don't want a disease or any other person to control me
and my family.

The A here has been to rehab several times. I just went on with my life, building
my own program. rehab or not, my life is not going to be based on what
someone else does.

For me being totally independant was the only way to go. Being so sick with
alcoholism, I was in no way going to base my path on him. If he was some part
of my life, wonderful. But he would be extra.

I used to think rehab meant everything will be ok, he will stop now. uh uh,never ever
went that way. not once. All it did was get him well enough to drink and enjoy it for
awhile again.

I guess I want to invite you to take this time to dive into alanon and take care of YOU. Plan
your own recovery as we get sicker or as sick as them. If he walks along side of
you great. If not then you have not lost anything. I would think it is better for him
to follow your healthy lead anyway.

Just my thoughts. YOu sound like you want recovery. good for you!!

much love,debilyn







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mom to 2


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Deb,


You may have misunderstood when I said "where it takes us."  I know where I'm going--I am stong and independent.  I've been a single mom of 2 toddlers for 3 out of 4  months.  Regardless of his actions--using or recovery--I'm doing my thing here.


When I say "where it takes us" I mean as a family.  I have filed divorce but I would like to be a family if he finds "recovery." 


We're doing fine by ourselves here and I miss being a family---but I have no intentions of remaining married to an active addict.


mom to 2



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Hi Mom to 2


((Mom to 2))


 


I am so happy that your husband has found his way back to rehab and I will pray that he finds recovery


 


Megan



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