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Lastnight my husband crossed a line that almost made me snap!!! He came home drunk of course and gave my son's kitten away to his driver. I am angry with him as he had absolutly no right to do this!! I wanted to yell but didn't and I feel really bad for my son. I know that we could get the kitten back and the old me would be fighting with hubby because of his morrals and how wrong it was of him and for the fact that he feels no remorse. The new me held my son and said sory and explained to him that we could get the kitten back.
Today I will have a talk with hubby and explain that it was wrong and tell him that he owes my son an appology and that it is up to him to deal with my son and his hurt feelings.
Alcoholicism today pisses me off their selfish behavior and the sick sence of humor and their incapability to feel in any way.
I am greatful to my program for helpping me with situations such as these.
Wow, I am not sure I could have handled myself the way that you did. That really took some strength. I think I would have not been able to control it and would have blown my top.
I hope all goes well in your house today and that your son's kitten is returned safely.
You are an ispiration, thank you for sharing that.
Much Love,
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"Today's problems can not be solved if we still think the way we did when we created them" -Albert Einstein
Today I will have a talk with hubby and explain that it was wrong and tell him that he owes my son an appology and that it is up to him to deal with my son and his hurt feelings.
I quit "explaining" anything to my A. He is not a child, he is not my son, I am not his counselor.
I don't tell my A what to do. Just becuz he has a disease that makes him act like an idiot, I don't have to clean up his messes.
For me I learned to separate myself from his madness. If he looks or acts like a fool, hurts someone, whatever, it is no reflection on me. Nor is it up to me to tell him how to clean it up.
In taking care of me, I stopped doing anything for him that he has to do for himself.
It is awful when kids are involved, but again, I stay out of it.
I am so glad you came here and told us. And good for you for not clobbering him for doing this.
I am an animal activist and would have gotten the kitten back immediately. That was total abuse to the kitten and the child.
Animals are not a throw away commodity. rrrr so believe me, you handled that one a heck of a lot better than I would have!!! love,debilyn
You must really be working the program! I would have lost it. I know that the relationship between my A and our children is thier relationship and not mine. That is the area I have the most control problems with. I find it hard not to act like a wild animal when it comes to my children and thier well being. I am trying really hard not to be crazy mom. Thanks for the reminder Jen.
