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Well I am proud of myself last night. My "A" had some friends over and he got drunk. Not just the normal drunk, but the agrumentative drunk. And I just humored him and said things like "yes, honey" and "ok honey" and I didnt bite. The things he wanted to discuss is usually a sore subject but I knew that whatever we discussed it was not gonna get resolved. Because when he gets like this I cant change his mind about anything by reasoning with him about it. He's unreasonable right now. And I knew that he wouldnt even remember the topic of conversation tomorrow. So I just let him talk and look like an idiot in front of everyone. And even though they were his friends, none of them were drunk so they saw how I was handling it and probably knew what I was doing. They all know that I am in Alanon, we talk about it freely. So I am glad that I could control myself like that, and I went to bed quietly because I didnt start an argument that could have gone on forever. So I feel like I've wone this battle, but of course the war continues and it's one night at a time. I have had good nigths and bad night (when I cant help but say soemthing). But I am glad that this was a good night.
You should be proud of yourself. It can be difficult sometimes not say anything when mean things are being said to you. You are strong. Keep up the good work. Helps to remind me that sometimes we do have slips but that is ok. Keep working the program.
It can be difficult sometimes not say anything when mean things are being said to you. You are strong. Keep up the good work. Helps to remind me that sometimes we do have slips but that is ok. Keep working the program.