The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
My A and I have spent some time apart this week, he needed to focus on self and so did I-now he wants to talk tonite-very afraid he wants to call it off-told him I need time before we talk but I think I am just avoiding him because I feel hes going to break off the relationship---
now feeling i should just talk to him and get it over with--should I wait or not------help????
Sometimes I wonder why we hang on - I would have loved it if my ex wanted to call it off, he would have preferred me to commit suicide, than 'give him the shame of walking out on him!'
Have you thought about what you really want & why?
I heard some really good & simple advice in here -- step back & pretend your sister or best friend was telling you your story -- what would you lovingly suggest them to do?
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Light, Love, Peace, Blessings & Healing to Us All. God's Will Be Done. Amen.
One of the things that has helped me in the past when I get so scared about being alone, or my A not coming home....I tell myself...."I am right where I am supposed to be" to learn, to grow, to become my own person. Hope this helps. Hugs Mary
Boy, do I know how you feel. It is so hard to love an "A".. !! I truely know how you feel. One minute you know leaving is the best for you. The next you are scared to death.. Afraid of being alone, afraid of not being loved, afraid of tomorrow.
Your head knows the right thing but your heart wont let go !!
