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I feel the need to talk to others and have thought of al-anon before. I'm very happy to have found this sight and hope it will help. My husband is a alcoholic and now knows he has a problem but trying to fix it by himself. He was badly hurt at work 3 months ago and is still under doctors care but his drinking has gone way overboard do to the pain he is in. It got so bad he tryed overdosing on pain pills when drinking 3 weeks ago and was hospitalized for 3 days in the cardiac floor. Needless to say that turned my life upside down i'm angry, hurt, betrade i feel almost every emotion there is and some i didnt now excited. He realizes that if he wasnt drinking he would have never done that and that the drinking put him over the edge. He quiet drinking that day and has been sober for 3 weeks until today we got into a agruement and he went and started drinking im hoping he climbs back on his wagon tomorrow we will see. I will be at your morning meetings put i guess i don't know what to do?
Dear jspooh, I am glad you posted and you are here. You are not alone anymore, we are all here for you, keep coming back. I have been in this program for almost 8 years. I go to atleast 3 meetings a week plus online, and it has changed my life. Even though my A has never stayed sober I got better. I to get angry but no longer at him but his disease. I HATE IT!!!! Alanon has taught me to seperate the two and I am thankful for that. It has taught me to take care of me no matter what he is doing and it has helped me to remeber he is sick. When he drinks after a argument, he is doing the only thing he knows how to do. My A also tries to do it on his own, but does not make it. I always have hope that someday he will go back into those rooms. But that is none of my business, I am my business and I am the only one I can change. Keep talking and if you can get to some meetings there are people just like you there and you will find help. (((((hugs)))))
In Alanon we have the 3C's I didn't cause it, I can't control it, and I can't cure it, but I can change something and that is ME
Ispooh, I am glad you found Alanon. I have been so much happier since I've found them. I am very lucky to have an "A" that is very supportive towards my going to Alanon. I will be going to my first "physical" meeting tonight and I am so excited. My "A" goes through sober moments too when he is trying to better himself. BUt he wants so badly to be able to come home and casually have a beer or two after work, but we all know that an "Alcoholic" cant casually drink. To beat the disease he has to practice abstinence when it comes to drinking. Alanon is helping me deal with my issues with his alcoholism. And I feel great when I dont let it get to me, I feel like I've won, and it's making him want to change he told me last night. If he does great, but if he doesnt, I will be ok. And thats what I get from Alanon. So welcome to the family and I hope it does for you as much as it has for me.
Welcome! and you are in the right place! You will find lots of support/love and experience, strength and hope in the on-line meetings and here on the message board as well. It would also be good if you could attend face-to-face Al-Anon meetings in the area you live.
When I came into Al-Anon I felt very angry, hurt and resentful and I had tried everything I knew how to do to cope with the disease of alcoholism on mine own...all to no avail. As they say in Al-Anon "my best thinking got me here."
In Al-Anon I learned the only thing I "could" do was take the focus off the alcoholism and put it on myself...I didn't cause it, I cannot cure it and I cannot control it. I learned what I could about the effects the disease has had on me and to do the footwork that I need to do to bring serenity into my life. The program tells us "we can find happiness whether the alcoholic is still drinking or not" and that appealed to me since I had no desire to leave my a because I love him dearly.
Keep coming back js...you will begin to feel better!! Al-Anon advises us not to make any major decisions for our lives until we have been attending meetings for six months. I have found that I view things differently since I have been in recovery and that I am healthier and happier than I have been in a very long time. The biggest change in me has been in my attitude and changes in attitude does "aid recovery."
Love in recovery - Shimo (Jeri)
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The ultimate lesson all of us have to learn is unconditional love, which includes not only others but ourselves as well. Elisabeth Kubler-Ross
I hope you will feel the love and support that I have from this sight. You are in the right place. Recovery is a slow process but having the support from this sight and the meetings can make all the difference in the world.
Don't worry about not know what to do at the meetings they are very simple you listen to others and then if you would like take a turn yourself, vent, tell a story about yourself or your day. Before you know it you will be on your way.
