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My A is behind me snoring after being out until three in the morning. I she just finished days of very hard work and her birthday is this week...funny but I came up with a saying last night when I was laying in bed waiting for her..."reason # 365." Meaning A's will find 365 good reasons to drink, one every day.
Here is the good ME news...three days ago she got nasty with me after several drinks. I just held my ground, no tears or panic. She tried about three times to get me to fight, put me down, etc. Next she came humbly in and talked about the problem. Asked me to come back to the bedroom to read. I told her I would only after she changed the sheets on the bed...lol!
Last night I wasn't angry either. I confess I did worry a bit knowing the longer she was out the more she was drinking and she had to get home. I didn't like her waking me up and thinking it might be time for romance...LOL again...but I told her to let me sleep and she did.
I am proud of myself for taking control. For now I stay, and I love her and I will keep working. Her family has been supporting me, and she goes to the doctor next tuesday for a full liver work up. She says if it is bad she will quit...not holding my breath but I do think it will be one step closer to her realization.
I just read your post and you should be proud of yourself. My A has almost stopped trying to get me to fight with him, because I refuse to fight about the same thing over and over. I have put so much focus on me and my things that I barely have time to be upset when he is out and then comes stumbling in. I use gentle words instead of hurtful ones, this is not easy when he has hurt me with his words. I have to remind myself quite a bit when he lashes out at me with words.
