The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
My Creator, I am now willing that you should have all of me, good & bad. I pray that you now remove from me every single defect of character which stand in the way of my usefulness to You & my fellows. Grant me strength as I go out from here, to do your bidding. Amen.
I am a recovering A since Oct 15, 2001. I will continue to post & share things from my AA program that helps me, along with Al Anon, deal with my active A hubby.
I hope that no one has a problem with this. I just want to share with other Al Anon members words that help & guide me in my Al Anon program also. I do know that in meeting we are to stick to Al Anon topics. For me, these words help me & only enhance my program here.
I feel that I have come along way in a short time and feel that it is because I am willing to read & try to understand anything that enhances my Al Anon program.
I hope that you will get as much out of these postings as I do. God Bless.
Dear Kathy, As far as I am concerned, you are more than welcome here!! Sometimes, maybe you can give your opinion from both sides of the 'fence', for lack of a better word. I'm kinda in a daze today. My A has gone on a binge to his cottage. I guess I'm not supposed to give ultamatims, but I did. I'm really sliding in my program, and I know I have to really get off my butt and work on me. I guess I got lazy when things were going well. Now. I have to start at the beginning again and work harder at my recovery.
I'm not hurt that he's gone. Guess I'm kinda relieved. One boundary that I strictly enforce is that I don't want him anywhere near me when he's drinking.(after violence a couple years ago) This is his 3rd time in one week. The 1st. I tried to ignore, the 2nd, he started getting nasty and I slept on the couch. Yesterday, I told him he'd have to sleep in the camper because I was not giving up the compfort of my bed. He crossed the line, and I wasn't going to sleep on the couch again with a bad back.
Last summer was the first summer in the 8 years we've been together that he didn't go to his cottage on a binge. We went on our 1st vacation and had a wonderful summer.Sigh
He has been extreemly selfish lately and been taking me for granted even more than usual. I guess I knew what was coming. I have been thinking a lot lately that I would like to get control of my own life again. I guess, deep down, that I dont want him to come back. I won't go back on that roller coaster!! Now, I am praying for the strength to stick to my boundaries, for ME.
I feel that you know and understand Alcoholism much better than I possibly could, and that you will be an enrichment to our recovery. Keep coming back, Love TLC
PS The topic of teens on this board was brought up awhile ago. I personally think they are more than welcome here, as we could see what they go through, and could help each other too. I think it would help us understand what our own children are going through.
I certainly don't have a problem with you sharing. That is what the message board is for :) What you shared both here and below sure has helped me already. Thanks for caring enough to post to help us. cdb
I welcome you just as AA and NA welcome me as an al-anonic at there meetings! We are all in this together, do the 12s tep boogie! With 2 left feet. - josey
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Julianne - It's best to move on. You cannot look back in anger in life. It's too short
Personally, I could not have worked my program and gotten healthier without working the Big Book readings in, attending open AA meetings, and working the 12 steps with an AA member, as well as my alanon work! I guess we have to do what works for us! Keep up with the great posting.
