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Peggy7


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 I Got Flowers Today



  


We had our first argument last night, and he said a lot of cruel things that really hurt me. I know he is sorry and didn't mean the things he said, because he sent me flowers today. I got flowers today.


It wasn't our anniversary or any other special day.


Last night he threw me into a wall and started to choke me. It seemed like a nightmare, I couldn't believe it was real.


I woke up this morning sore and bruised all over. I know he must be sorry cause he sent me flowers today.


I got flowers today, and it wasn't mother's day or any other special day.


Last night, he beat me up again, it was much worse than all the other times. If I leave him, what will I do? How will I take care of my kids? What about money?


I'm afraid of him and scared to leave. But I know he must be sorry because he sent me flowers today.


I got flowers today. Today was a very special day. It was the day of my funeral!


Last night, he finally killed me. He beat me to death. If only I had gathered enough courage to leave him, I would not have gotten flowers today.......



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Christy


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Ty Peggy..
That was utterly chilling and a wake up call for those in danger.

Christy
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Thanks Peggy. The poem also gave me chills. I ahve a friend that it could be written about, only she left today.


 


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Thank You Peggy ---

This is something I really needed to hear now -as a reminder for when I second guess myself.

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(((((((((((((((((((((Peggy)))))))))))))))))))))))))


i have never read anything that touched me so deeply.  I will pray for you today and everyday. 


Mandi



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Peggy,


This was chilling to me too. Especially since my daughter is the one that beats the men up! One night a boyfriend called me and said your daughter is beating me up! I told him to call the police but he wouldn't. She goes into black outs and doesn't remember. Last week she beat another boyfriend up and burned his arm badly with a cigarette! What a horrible disease this is! We are so powerless over the alcoholic. This disease just breaks my heart! cdb



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I have not been posting for months but when I read that poem it totally creeped me out......the first two things have happened to me and after he choked me and threatened to kill me again with a butcher's knife in his hand, I finally left again and for good.  That was back in April and the divorce was finalized in July.  Each time I left the abuse got worse and I knew that if I went back this time that he could kill me.  It is very frightening and thank goodness for the DVIS support groups I go to now.  He is a drug addict and alcoholic that has gone back to using so he is back to his druggie lifestyle.  Please if anyone is being abused - be it emotional, mental, physical - save yourself.  I never thought that pushing or confining me to one room and not letting me out was abuse but it is!!!  Everyone has their bottom to hit but I realized that I am worth living without him and that life goes on even if we are not together anymore.  Painful as it is, the abuse gets worse and there is nothing you can do to stop it except to leave it behind.

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