I am grateful reading the posts & responses today, it really helps a lot to share.  All of us have experienced similiar things, in one way or another w/ the "A" in our lives.  It runs in my family & many of my friends & b/f's have been addicts as well.

I'm nearly 40 & I am realizing AGAIN that only I can save myself or know what is best for me.  It is so convoluted for those of us that love them.  I guess everyone simply has to go through their own lives to get to the next point, wtvr that may be.

So far everything my step-dad has done, it's all been the same.  I'm not feeling any contrition or change, so until that time, I really cannot allow myself to be interested in what he has to say.  Besides, I'm a little paranoid, now that he's in meetings, he may just be parroting what he hears. 

I have to prtoect myself & realize it is more important for me to listen to me.   

Thank you everybody for your support.  I feel hopeful today.