I just wanted to thank everyone for their responses to my post "Its working!!!!".   I was feeling a little down because friday night yet again he stayed out late at his friends, he was supposed to be home at 6:00 to watch my son but never showed up to releave his family, when I got back from my daughters game and called him I found this out and lost it.  So he didn't come home until after we were in bed.  Then Saturday morning I let him have it again, for one reason because he was planning on going back to that friends house to help dig for a septic and I felt that he had plenty to do at home and spent more than enough time away Friday night.  But of course he went anyway and I went and did what I needed to do. 

I did, however, maintain calm, sort-of, for the rest of the weekend.  But after reading all of your replies I have a renewed sense that I can do it.  Ofcourse I will slip but maybe if I can keep it up it will become habit and there will be less slips.

As far as him having friends I don't approve of I can't stop him so why try, his hp has a plan for him and I have to remember that.  Hopefully, he won't return to going to that friends every night of the week and spending all his time there but if he does than I guess I will have to deal with it when it happens.

Thanks for listening, and thanks for responding.

Holly