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I don't know about any of you but sometimes I get very obessed about things, whether it is eating something I am not supposed to have, or calling someone. It is like something takes over your body and you can't control what is happening. I have lots of obessions that get me into alot of trobule at times.
With the help of my higher power I am hoping that I can lift it. But it is still hard.
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Hey everyone watch me grow. I go thru good & bad times. each day i am getting stronger.
I can relate. I have fallen prey to obsessive thinking many times over the years. This is very similiar to what an alcoholic/addict deals with regarding their use. Pray helps, as well as this program and the 12 steps. Every time you catch yourself obsessing ask God to remove the thoughts from your mind. I do that over and over until the thoughts subside. Some days it's easier than others. Keep on keepin on!
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Kathy S --
~*I trust my Higher Power that I am exactly where I am supposed to be in my life today.*~
I am trying to work with my higher power and work on the obessive behavior. Sometimes your right it is better then other days. It all depends on how I am doing today. How I am feeling about my self.
Becky
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Hey everyone watch me grow. I go thru good & bad times. each day i am getting stronger.
I have lots of trouble over obsessive thinking -- usually about my ex-A or potential new romantic relationships. This character defect will dominate my life as much as I allow it to. Try reading page 141 of Courage to Change everyday. It helped me an anormous amount.
Keep coming back. It will get better.
Love and hugs, Jessi
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If you want something you've never had, you have to do something you've never done.
I'd like to recommend a book by Neil Anderson, Victory Over The Darkness, A Battle For The Mind....
Basically, we are to take each thought captive as we begin to have these obsessive thoughts. Initially, it is VERY hard because we often don't recognize we are continuing the same thought patterns. However, as we become more conscious of our thoughts, it becomes easier and easier to recognize when we start obsessing over the thought. Often times, these obsessions come from our learned behaviors.
A very interesting discovery I recently learned from an advanced Psychology professor I had in school, as well as a television program that was recently on is that our brain actually creates patterns that resemble ruts and that when a person dies if they look at the brain, they can actually see by the ruts in the brain which area the person mostly concentrated on in their life while they were alive.
As I thought about this further, the analogy I thought of immediately was that of a car stuck in snow or mud... As the driver tries desparately to get the car out of that rut, the deeper the rut gets. However, eventually as the driver gains different attempts at getting the car out of the rut, the tires begin to come out of the rut.
I guess this would mean that all these thoughts we were taught in unhealthy disfunctional relationships have developed deep thoughts in a certain part of our brains and it isn't until we utilize ALL resources and make the conscious attempt to change those thought patterns that we will be able to think in other areas of our brain.
I think it's cool to know how the brain works because knowing this we can actually visualize the effect many of our thoughts have on our mental, physical, and emotional health.
I have a lot of trouble with this, too, especially obsessive thinking. My counsellour suggested something to me that I have found works sometimes, adn that is 'staying in the moment'. Rather than mindlessly doing some task while you run those thoughts through your brain, really focus on the task. Smell the smells, feel the sensations under your hands, hear every sound. If your mind starts to stray, bring it back.
